High school help: I’m considered to be a dorky lesbian who’s very soft-spoken and shy.

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I’m considered to be a dorky lesbian who’s very soft-spoken and shy.

Four years ago during my junior year at an all-girls high school, I became infatuated with this beautiful girl who was a grade above me. I think that I made it obvious that I had a crush on her because she would constantly playfully say hi to me, and I would get nervous around her. When she was about to graduate, I really wanted to tell her how I felt… but she was busy. So, I just congratulated her. After a while, I mentioned to her on myspace that I hope she did not assume that I liked her as more than a friend and she said that she thought I just admired her. I have to admit that I am neither fashionable nor do I have a very interesting personality. I am now 20 years old, but still dorky and unfashionable… We attend the same University, and she would constantly say hi and compliment me. The problem is that she is very social and parties a lot, and I don’t drink or party. She’s bisexual… but I am not the type of girl that she likes. A couple of days ago, she commented on my photo and said, “awe. You’re adorable. ”—meaning that I still look like a kid to her. I like her and would like to attract her; however, I do not know how to go about this process.

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

That’s so funny, i’m like almost in the same boat as you. i became infatuated with this girl back in 8th grade who was just the most amazing girl i’ve ever met. she’s always been very popular, and very playful/touchy feely with me, and she’d also call me “adorable” and “cute.” although i was pretty dorky like you, she gave me this huge surge of confidence so i didn’t let my dorkiness get in the way of my huge drive. I fell so deep in love with her that my motivation to be close to her took over, and eventually we became best friends. unfortunately it can’t go any further from that because she’s straight even though she acts like a total lesbian, and what’s worse, in high school she moved. when she moved, she took my confidence and motivation with her and i became a complete mess. i socially isolated myself, lost all my friends, fell into a deep pit of depression and self destructive behaviors, that i really felt there was no point to live anymore. but now i just have a year left till i graduate from college, and i realized i dont want to live the rest of my life like this. so i’ve been trying to recover from everything and i’m just trying to make back the friends i lost and gain back my confidence to make new friends. though nothing can ever happen with the girl i love, i now know that she’s not the only girl out there, that there are other girls i may be attracted to enough to get back that drive and who are actually lesbians too. so i’m just working at gaining my confidence back and hopefully i can meet that right girl. just got to be patient.

so long story short (sorry that was a lot about me), i believe that maybe you should work on your confidence if that’s an issue. b/c if that girl’s really not right for you, there are other girls too. you don’t want to fall into a deep mess like i did. just work on your confidence and kind of put yourself out there; i’m sure the right girl will come along. i think the nice thing about yours is that she’s bi so you still have a chance. just try to go out more, hang out, socialize, and she’ll notice you more. that’s how the girl i love noticed me more - we started to hangout all the time and became best friends. so i guess like if you really like her enough, i think you’d feel a drive like i did to get her to notice you more and eventually you can hang out w/ her more, and just like yeah work your way in. who knows, you guys might end up together! and if not, just remember she’s not the only one. good luck! :]

That's so funny, i'm like almost in the same boat as you. i became infatuated with this girl back in 8th grade who was just the most amazing girl i've ever met. she's always been very popular, and very playful/touchy feely with me, and she'd also call me "adorable" and "cute." although i was pretty dorky like you, she gave me this huge surge of confidence so i didn't let my dorkiness get in the way of my huge drive. I fell so deep in love with her that my motivation to be close to her took over, and eventually we became best friends. unfortunately it can't go any further from that because she's straight even though she acts like a total lesbian, and what's worse, in high school she moved. when she moved, she took my confidence and motivation with her and i became a complete mess. i socially isolated myself, lost all my friends, fell into a deep pit of depression and self destructive behaviors, that i really felt there was no point to live anymore. but now i just have a year left till i graduate from college, and i realized i dont want to live the rest of my life like this. so i've been trying to recover from everything and i'm just trying to make back the friends i lost and gain back my confidence to make new friends. though nothing can ever happen with the girl i love, i now know that she's not the only girl out there, that there are other girls i may be attracted to enough to get back that drive and who are actually lesbians too. so i'm just working at gaining my confidence back and hopefully i can meet that right girl. just got to be patient.

so long story short (sorry that was a lot about me), i believe that maybe you should work on your confidence if that's an issue. b/c if that girl's really not right for you, there are other girls too. you don't want to fall into a deep mess like i did. just work on your confidence and kind of put yourself out there; i'm sure the right girl will come along. i think the nice thing about yours is that she's bi so you still have a chance. just try to go out more, hang out, socialize, and she'll notice you more. that's how the girl i love noticed me more - we started to hangout all the time and became best friends. so i guess like if you really like her enough, i think you'd feel a drive like i did to get her to notice you more and eventually you can hang out w/ her more, and just like yeah work your way in. who knows, you guys might end up together! and if not, just remember she's not the only one. good luck! :]

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