The girl who I am about to ask to become my girlfriend is in fact my good friend from way back - I’ve known her since pre-school.
And it all happened really, really fast.
It felt natural too. I’ve never been in an actual relationship, so I don’t know who I’m kidding, but I had a gut feeling that she liked me. All those other girls I ever liked, I would try to fake that gut feeling, and convince myself that they liked me deep down, but I really didn’t have to do that with her. I just knew, deep down, that my feelings for her were not just one way.
Recently, we’ve been hanging out a lot, and she’s been around me all the time. And when we went to the movies only 2 days ago with a group of friends, within the first 5 minutes of the movie? Her head was on my shoulder, and her hand searching for mines.
To be honest, I was shocked the first time she showed me such affection. I asked myself, are we still friends? What the hell is she doing? But I didn’t particularly mind the next time, and soon, I guess I started returning the affection unconsciously.
That barrier kept looming at me - were we not just friends? How could I throw away years of knowing her? And I never ever thought about her in that way until about 2 weeks ago. And I just accepted that I couldn’t view her simply as a friend anymore, how could I?
And yesterday, the question came at me. She asked me how I really felt about her. And I told her that I really liked her, more than just a friend. And she told me the same - she didn’t think of me as just a friend anymore. So now that’s out of the way, and now I know that she likes me back.
I plan to ask her tomorrow to be my girlfriend. It feels right for the first time in my whole life, and I know that I am willing to spend those hours to keep this relationship alive.
But I wonder if I’m doing the right thing, pursuing a relationship with this friend of mines. I’m going to be in college in a couple months, and we’ll be limited to a few hours a day at most, over Skype and chat. And also, I’m aware of the chance that I’m going to lose this friendship if this relationship goes wrong. So what are some precautions and things I should talk about with her to ensure this doesn’t go awry?
And is this normal, to fall for a friend, and have her fall for you as well? I don’t think I would have fallen for her if she hadn’t begun showing me such affection.
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