I really don’t know what to do!?
I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 18 months now- I have always had doubts about the relationship but he is such a lovely guy I have just kept going out with him.
It is getting to the point where I feel it’s time to make the next step. Last night I felt so close to him and I almost suggested we got married- but then I had second thoughts about saying anything and so didn’t. I know he wants to because he’s often said so. But I was scared of saying something and then regretting it the next morning. The same thing happened when I thought about asking him if he wanted to move in with me. I thought better of saying anything- although I really wanted to for a moment!
The main problem I have with him is that he works bad hours- where as I work from 9-6 generally he works evenings and weekends- seeing him means I have to stay up late-(then I feel tired for work!) and I spend most of my evenings on my own.. I’m afraid it might be a mistake to commit to this man. We’re also from such different backgrounds- he his Bengali- but grew up in London and I am from a small city in the UK. Sometimes I feel that intellectually we are worlds apart although sometimes somehow we still get on well- I am not saying he’s stupid only that I’ve had a pretty good education where as his is very limited. He’s so sweet to me, I feel like my life would be empty without him but I just don’t know if I would be happy committing to him in the long term- will I be happy?
Any advice for me?
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