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So here it goes..

I met a girl at a mutual friends wedding 7 months ago. Right away we hit it off and have been talking pretty regularly (4-5 times a week)by phone, text and skype. At the time, we lived about 8 hours apart. As our relationship has progressed from just getting to know each other as friends to start thinking more seriously about seeing a future together. About 3 months into us talking we decided that I would visit in her town and things went really well. We continued to talk and about a month later I went back to visit and we mutual decided we would like to exclusively date each other. Things have been going really well, it is still long distance but closer than 8 hours to where we can do weekends together (5 hours). We see each other about every 3 weekends but it is always hard to leave and resume normal life knowing you wont see them for a long while. She makes me unbelievably happy and I think we are great together. We have talked about having an end date and have established that if we are still together this time next year one of us moving. Our relationship works really well but she is more established in her city than I am in mine so i feel a little more lonely during our time apart than it seems she is. I am happy to move to make this work and have moved quite a bit for work and things. Looking for some guidance on if after 9 months or so of dating is too early to move? any help would be appreciated, never been in a long distance relationship or felt this way about someone in any of my prior relationships. In my late 20’s if that is helpful. I would also say that I am probably a little more dependent on relationships than she seems to be (purely because of a difference of personality)

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)

I say make sure you find a job first. If she is worth it, go for it.

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (18 hours, 26 minutes after post)

She is definitely worth it. Since we have been exclusive we have talked about things like moving, marriage and such and she would be the one to bring these types of things up. asking questions like “you really see a future with me?” or saying ” its so much different with you than anyone ever before.” Last week she seemed to pull back a little when giving more than to how fast we were moving and kind of started pushing me away. she says she still wants to marry me and she realizes it wont be tomorrow, that she just kind of freaked herself out with the thought of it so soon. Now i feel a bit on pins and needles when we talk because i dont want to say the wrong things. Should i back off some, not talk to her as much?

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (21 hours, 52 minutes after post)

No she will think you are mad at her…just communicate, talk it out, ask her if she needs a little breathing room

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