friends help: My dad has a drinking problem and he was very abusive to me, my brother, and my mom. - Help.com

Ask you brother how he felt growing up with an alcoholic, abusive dad. Ask him if he admires your dad for his choices in life. If he says he doesn’t, then ask him why he would want to become what he hates or judges. Hopefully that will snap him back to reality real quick. Let us know, OK.

This may help. http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

I read this, then i realise I’ve hardly got any real problems in comparison to yours. I could only hope your brother comes to terms with his drinkn problem as soon as possible, whether that be from outside help or wereva - but if you can get your brother on the straight path again then Im sure you two can be strong for eachother. My older brothers always been abit of a ‘father figure’ for me and it really helps to know that someone is always there whose gna protect u through anythin

I’m in the same boat, except I’m the older sis who cares for her younger sis due to alcohol related problems. I also am dealing with alcoholism, but a number of events about 6 months ago made me snap out of my heaving drinkng, one being my dad no longer being able to care for my sister(because he’s an alcoholic) and her moving in with me. I also did not want to be what we were getting away from, so I quit drinking. I still feel a lot of pressure, and sometimes it does build up, but I’ve learned that it’s not all about me. It takes communication. My sister knows what I’m going through; we talk about it all the time. You have to get through to your brother and tell him how it’s affecting you, how it’s screwing you up because he’s acting just like your dad. You have to remind him of all the pain and suffering it causes, and that you are probably all he’s got and vice versa.