boyfriend help: How important is it to have things in common? - Help.com

i don’t think it’s a deal breaker, you’re both human, i think that’s enough common ground. you’re both looking for something in each other which ideally isn’t just another person to do crap they enjoy with(and if it is i’d recommend just staying friends). granted it would be nice to have some similar likes, but that’s where the give-and-take of the relationship also comes in. give each other space to do your own thing and there ya go.

If she turned out to be a dude.. Well, that is a stretch.

I do think that one would have to get a mix that works. If it works, it does not matter.

I´m so complicated in myself that if anyone would even consider moving in with me in such a relation i would be surprised.

welcome to the girl vrs boys world, the battle of the sexes. If you find a guy with all the qualities of staying at home with you, wants to read and watch cooking shows with you, he’ll probable turn out to be gay.

Sorry. Its ok though.

My parents made a wonderful compromise, which gave them a happy marriage. My dad drug her to all his WWII and civil war reenactments, where he could pretend to shoot and blow up people all weekend, and on the flipside my mom got to drag him to ballroom dancing class.

Pretend every once in a while to be interested in what he is. He’ll appreciate it. At the same time, try to interest him in some of your activities.

He is happiest at the bar with his friends? Do you never go out with them? That seems like it could cause problems eventually. Loving anyone is always a chore, I do not think it is ever easy. Relationships take work.

Opposites attract.
It’s much better for a durable relationship if both have not too many or even all things in common.
But very important is the mutual respect for the preferences of the other. For live and let live.