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My situation is a bit tricky and will take a while to explain. Basically, I am with my boyfriend who loves me but won’t commit to a future with me. He cheated on me in the past, and when he did we broke up and I started seeing someone else. The boyfriend then turned his life around and for almost a year has done nothing wrong. I, on the other hand have been talking to the other guy on and off and we have told each other that we love each other. So, I’m in love with both of them, for different reasons.

Now, my job means that I am often away from my boyfriend, but if I continued, I *may* get to see the other guy. But I want to quit my job. I have to pay them 6,000 to break the contract (to cover training costs) this is doable, if I may month by month. I want to work at home, and be close to my boyfriend and work things out, because I do truly beleive that we have a future.

So, I applied for a job,and they told me I’d need to go away for 5 months to train first. I’m worried about the impact that this might have on my relationship. My boyfriend says he loves me but won’t really talk about the future. He says he doesn’t know if we will be together in 6 months.

I don’t know what to do. If I carry on witht the job I’m in, then I think there will be a massive rift between me and my boyfriend. I might also be unfaithful to him withthe other guy. The other guy has said he loves me and wants to have a life with me, and has offered me many wonderful things taht my boyfriend hasn’t. I really want it to work with my boyfriend but if I commit to him, and leave my job, I will have to pay a lot of money, potentially for him to then break up with me, and I will then be left living near him, and unable to stop seeing him/ calling him/ texting etc, because I am very needy.

This is long and confusing, so thankyou for reading it :) Any help is greatly appreciated xx

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

you need to enjoy living single untill you no longer feel the need then your mind can think from a more rational point of view.

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Help with career

My situation is a bit tricky and will take a while to explain. Basically, I am with my boyfriend who loves me but won’t commit to a future with me. He cheated on me in the past, and when he did we broke up and I started seeing someone else. The boyfriend then turned his life around and for almost a year has done nothing wrong. I, on the other hand have been talking to the other guy on and off and we have told each other that we love each other. So, I’m in love with both of them, for different reasons.

Now, my job means that I am often away from my boyfriend, but if I continued, I *may* get to see the other guy. But I want to quit my job. I have to pay them 6,000 to break the contract (to cover training costs) this is doable, if I may month by month. I want to work at home, and be close to my boyfriend and work things out, because I do truly beleive that we have a future.

So, I applied for a job,and they told me I’d need to go away for 5 months to train first. I’m worried about the impact that this might have on my relationship. My boyfriend says he loves me but won’t really talk about the future. He says he doesn’t know if we will be together in 6 months.

I don’t know what to do. If I carry on witht the job I’m in, then I think there will be a massive rift between me and my boyfriend. I might also be unfaithful to him withthe other guy. The other guy has said he loves me and wants to have a life with me, and has offered me many wonderful things taht my boyfriend hasn’t. I really want it to work with my boyfriend but if I commit to him, and leave my job, I will have to pay a lot of money, potentially for him to then break up with me, and I will then be left living near him, and unable to stop seeing him/ calling him/ texting etc, because I am very needy.

This is long and confusing, so thankyou for reading it :) Any help is greatly appreciated xx

Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

It may sound hard, but prioritize your education, your training and your job!
If your boyfriend cannot stand this he is probably not the right one for you.

Always griffin 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

Honestly, dump him, go for your career.
Stand strong on your career.
Trust me, been there, done that, have the pictures to prove it

Help me with: May 24 1980, I was beaten,

Anonymous #
1 year ago (2 hours, 58 minutes after post)

thanks :)

It’s just so hard to let go. And he does mean a lot to me

Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (12 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
thanks :)

It’s just so hard to let go. And he does mean a lot to me

This is the “litmus test” for your relationship.
If he goes along with you and your needs — ok, but if not, let him go his way, and you go your own way.

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