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I’m feeling so home sick:(.

I’ve been living in France with my fiance for a month now.He had to move back because his mother is sick and at the time i thought i was fine with it, i had no second thoughts at the airport. But i’m feeling really depressed, obviously i miss my family but i’ve always found my self able to detatch myself quickly from a person(s) if i know i’m going to see them again soon(which i am in a few weeks). But i miss other things, France is just so unfamiliar i don’t feel comfortable, it’s just not home. And i miss a lot of other stuff, i miss my local pub and the drunken yobs at the weekend, i miss my scottish neighbour who always complains about the wheely bins on the curb, i miss my language; i speak a lot of french just not fluently; it become such a mental strain for me to keep translating things in my head, how my fiance did it i’ve no idea. I don’t feel like i belong here and i don’t really think i want to. I know home is where you make it but i’m not sure if this is where i should live. I’m English; he and i were-are? considering children, but should the time come i think i’d want to raise them in England, where they can see their grandparents and i’m sure he feels the same way towards France; i guess we could compromise with the channel islands?
I don’t know if i should go home; it seems like such a minute reason but it’s overcoming everything else at the moment. I can’t seem to get motivated to do anything i’m not eating as much as i normally did. I feel like i’m becoming a burden to my fiance when he visits his mother and i just… i just feel useless right now. i told you i can detatch myself from people easily, i’ve never thought it as a choice it just happens; i don’t know what i see in him anymore. Is it worth staying…

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I’ve had a similar experience. Like, actually living in France. France isn’t going to feel like home after a month.
Give it a year, then you’ll know that you’ve truly given it a go.
I lived over there with my family, and my mother struggled the hardest of all of us to grasp the language. Almost every member of our family had a breakdown at some point, feeling like we weren’t getting anywhere and that we wanted to go home, but we stuck at it. Now we all speak fluent french, my mother as well as the rest of us view France as a second home, because of the experiences we’ve shared there and the life-long friends we’ve made.
It certainly didn’t happen after a month.
Stay strong and give this a decent shot :). It was never going to be easy. Maybe tell you fiance how you feel, not to pressure him to take you home, but so that he knows how you feel and can be more understanding and support you.

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