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Should i try to get her back in the future?

My girlfriend broke up with me a 2 weeks ago for the 3rd time, completely. She said she wants to move on and be happy, and for me to do the same. I am not ready for that however. She said she feels like its whats right, for the both of us. She also said that she will always love me, and that parts of her miss me. Her father got involved and told me not to contact her, or try to see her. So i havent talked to her for weeks. Thats the most complicating factor, her parents. She is going away to college, in 2 months. I am going into the marine corps. I have been discussing it with my mom, and my friends. I told them that i want to try to get her back in the future, that i wanted to try one more time. They said that i should follow my heart, because i love her very much. My question is, should i try again in the future? Or should i not try ever again? Everyone just tells me to give it time, a great deal of time, than to try once more.

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ilivelife offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

As you are going to the marine corps & she is going to college, you may find that both your lives move on and you will drift apart naturally.

For now I think you should respect her wishes and accept that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

If she has ended the relationship 3 times, there are obviously reasons for that & it desn’t bode well for the future.

In any case, you may find you feel differently in a few months, once your life has changed and you have distance from her.

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dustinwolf5 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

There arent really reasons for the breakups….. It was always just a situation that she got stressed about, so she didnt know how to handle it. Honestly ill probably just do what i feel is right.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

All i am saying, is that i need to let her go, for now. I also think it may be okay to spread my own wings and see who else comes by. That doesnt mean i want to close the door on her completely however. We live in the same area, went to the same high school, and will return to the same area. I want to try to be close to her again, i have a feeling that itll be alright to do so. It was a yes or no question, should i try for her again eventually?

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11 months, 1 week ago (18 hours, 59 minutes after post)

Yes, it is going to be **** for a while. But you have something new to focus on, a fresh new start- and with new starts, come new views. Understand that its perfectly natural to feel sad about it now, but that you WILL be happy again- and most likely sooner rather than later, if you’re going into the marine corps! maybe you could write her a letter explaining how you feel. that way it shows youve made the effort to show her how you feel and its a nice romantic touch too:P itll also show her parents that you do feel really serious about this matter and that them saying not to contact her again perhaps isnt the best option- after all, they werent in the relationship, it was only you 2, and each relationship is different so one piece of advice might not work in every case. hope it goes well.

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ilivelife offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (22 hours, 48 minutes after post)

dustinwolf5 wrote:
All i am saying, is that i need to let her go, for now. I also think it may be okay to spread my own wings and see who else comes by. That doesnt mean i want to close the door on her completely however. We live in the same area, went to the same high school, and will return to the same area. I want to try to be close to her again, i have a feeling that itll be alright to do so. It was a yes or no question, should i try for her again eventually?

Well, ‘eventually’ sounds like it could be a long time away! I doubt that after any length of time you will want to try to get back together - you will probably both just move on.

If you want a yes or no, though, I would say no.

If you want to try relationships with other people, then ‘keeping the door open’ at the same time for someone else isn’t really fair on the other people is it?

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