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I knew this guy for about six years.

We had never talked romatically but there was always a mutual attraction between us. We became more interested in each other as high school progressed. After talking for about a year we started dating. We were not the couple that had much in common but we clicked. He understood me and I somewhat understood him. He is more the rule breaker and I am more the goody goody type. I fell for him quickly and before I knew it things were really serious for me. We were tgether for a year and I started thinking that maybe he was in for the long haul. When he told me after a year and a half of dating that he was moving and wanted to break up it was such a shock. He was not moving for college, but for an adventure. I had just started my freshman year at a university and really could not pick up and leave. So to my dismay he broke up with me. I knew it was best for him to get rid of every obstacle(me being an obstacle)that kept him from moving halfway across the country, so I did not put up a very big fight for his sake. He left without giving me much answer as to why he broke it off. So as my freshman year came to a close I found myself in utter sadness. He has been on my mind all year, and I do not know if I should chase after him. We did not keep in touch except for the occasional text or two. He did express to me that he had missed me, but is that any reason to move myself half way across the country so I can be with him? Should I try and rekindle what we had? or is it time to grow up and stop chasing after him?

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rhc offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

Sometimes love requires sacrifice. Since he appears to have run away, consider that the best thing you can do for him is let him go and get on with your life (the sacrifice). Put it in your book of life that you loved and lost, never forget that, and don’t stop searching for what is best for you. But don’t chase after someone who seems to be saying no. If he changes his mind, be open but don’t wait for that.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 25 minutes after post)

I think moving on might be a good idea.

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