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I’m having trouble with my girlfriend.

We get along great and it’s an amazing relationship, but when things get very sexual I can’t get fully hard. I’m almost fully erect, but I can’t feel much of what she is doing to me and I can’t get off. I don’t want to be on drugs though and I would rather not talk to my doctor as it is kind of embarrassing. What’s wrong with me or what can I do?

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (2 hours, 39 minutes after post)

It seems to be “only” a mental problem.
Is it your first sexual partner?
Just try to relax.

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Anonymous #
11 months ago (2 hours, 40 minutes after post)

Do you have this problem when you masturbate, too? Perhaps when next masturbating, take your time and think about the situation you find yourself in (if you can, lol) when it comes to having sex with your girlfriend. maybe its the expectation of having to satisfy your partner and you feel the pressure- so imagine how youd like it to go, and then see how it works out. is your gf understanding of this?

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Anonymous #
11 months ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

Yes, it’s my first. And no, I don’t have this problem masturbating. I haven’t talked to her about it yet, I just made a quick excuse when it happened

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (2 days, 5 hours after post)

No, it’s nothing wrong with you — except: your control of the mind over your body. You’re not relaxed enough, you’re thinking for seconds on other things (which kills the erection) instead of slumping into lust …

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