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To be honest….I hate other people…but I’m trying to change that. I never let people inside my head because I’m afraid they’ll use that kind of information against me.

The existence of others fills me with rage most of the time. Like walking down the street most days I am angry just by the presence of a crowd.

In terms of how I feel about friends or people I know rather well, I have no issue getting intimately close. I will tell anyone just about anything about my life. I see no reason to be embarrassed. And self depreciating humor is what I do best.

For the most part people are specimens to me. When someone becomes a close friend they are a little more, and yet I have trouble being loyal or overly emotional. Most of socializing is going through the societally approved and endorsed gestures. A drag really.

I can let anyone know whats going on in my head. But for them to get in there, well, they have to already think like me, or wish to.

Fixx wrote:
To be honest….I hate other people…but I’m trying to change that. I never let people inside my head because I’m afraid they’ll use that kind of information against me.

you said all that’s in my mind ^^

I try not to let people inside my head, there is only one person that I do now and I never regret it. This person seems to be as good a person as me but most people are just out to hurt you or hurt you when they don’t get what they want. I’ve learned from experience many times. I hate most people.

you mean “inside my head” as in open up to people? tell them how I really feel?
If so, yes. Once I share with others my deeper feelings, it’s hard for me to stop. It’s like passing a barrier, and after that I feel a sort of trust in that person. It’s hard for me to simply consider them a stranger after that.

I’m very selective about who I trust and share my innermost thoughts with.
I’ve made mistakes in the past, mostly with people when I was younger where people were simply to immature to keep that information to themselves or respect that trust.
I thoroughly enjoy rebounding my innermost thoughts off of others.
Thankful now I have a few choice friends who I can sit down and discuss life and ideology with. It’s a good experience for all involved because we get to test our beliefs and opinions in comfortable waters.
And if something is too personal to share with my friends, I’m lucky enough to have an understanding family :)
You should get to know someone well before you share personal information with them.

trust, I tried to trust people over and over again but always end up just like ‘’codmwjohnso'’ said these information are always used aganist me. So why even bother?
But still there are two people in my life who know everything about me :D

Savanna_ wrote:

codmwjohnso wrote:
I try not to let people inside my head, there is only one person that I do now and I never regret it. This person seems to be as good a person as me but most people are just out to hurt you or hurt you when they don’t get what they want. I’ve learned from experience many times. I hate most people.

ah, okay. I agree..
This person that you enjoy speaking to.. are there ever times when you close up?

I am selective sometimes but not too often. Sometimes I’ll tell them only half of what I’m thinking but when they talk to me about it and I see how genuinely they seem I usually end up caving and never regret it… But like I said, only for that one person, everyone else seems to take advantage.

To all the people who claim to hate people on here:
There are good people and bad people, maybe you’ve just had a run of bad luck with bad people, or maybe you have trouble recognizing bad people. Be careful not to generalize.
Trusting people to try and make them trustworthy is not going to work.
Trust is a kind of investment. There’re good investments and bad investments. Good investors can identify opportunities with good returns, so their money always comes back to them. Bad investors cannot identify those opportunities, so they throw their money around randomly and act surprised when the money doesn’t come back, and suddenly they’re all out of money to invest.
You have to be able to identify good returns in order to receive them.

Savannah_ wrote:
Honestly, how do you feel about other people?

Sorry, that’s private. I could tell you but then I’d have to command you to jump off a cliff (which could be very effective if you let my words into your mind in the first place.)

“Savanna_”, sorry.

wil wrote:
To all the people who claim to hate people on here:
There are good people and bad people, maybe you’ve just had a run of bad luck with bad people, or maybe you have trouble recognizing bad people. Be careful not to generalize.
Trusting people to try and make them trustworthy is not going to work.
Trust is a kind of investment. There’re good investments and bad investments. Good investors can identify opportunities with good returns, so their money always comes back to them. Bad investors cannot identify those opportunities, so they throw their money around randomly and act surprised when the money doesn’t come back, and suddenly they’re all out of money to invest.
You have to be able to identify good returns in order to receive them.

Oh I know there are good and bad people. Morality has nothing to do with this for me.

I hate People capital P. Humans. These creatures, this species of which I am a part. I dislike it.

I like some people lower capse p. I like individuals. I hate People.

Snar wrote:
Oh I know there are good and bad people. Morality has nothing to do with this for me.

I hate People capital P. Humans. These creatures, this species of which I am a part. I dislike it.

I like some people lower capse p. I like individuals. I hate People.

Oh right. Quite justified then :)

Yes, I do that. In my past when I have let people “inside my head” they’ve always thrown it back in my face, or made me feel ashamed about what I’ve said. Unfortunately, I have also been lied to a great deal so I’m reluctant to open up to many people at all. I have also been disappointed very often by many people. That’s where my fear comes from, I’m getting over it though :)

Once. And never again. People will take whatever knowledge they have of you and use it to systemically break you down and ruin you.

ew i never let people in my head, they’d run if they saw all

I don’t think speaking to someone honestly about yourself has to include giving the listener some sort of power to hurt you. Words can only hurt you if you believe them.

I feel that very few people understand me. There’s a larger group of acquaintances who have similar general beliefs, and then a larger group … people who are not evil, people who are Democrats, etc. But very few people would or can understand the things I think about. I sometimes meet a stranger who seems to “know,” but usually they disappear (into another town or country). My best friendships are still very limited and unrevealing for the most part. My soul-sisters and brothers … where are you?

Most people I think wear a mask, even to themselves. Most people do not delve very deep, avoid silence, avoid pain or lonliness at all cost, avoid thoughts that don’t fit with other people’s. Most people are pretending, at least a little. Very few are completely honest and very few are truly loyal or compassionate.

I wish I had a true, deep companion. I don’t.

I do have some “good friends.”

Mostly family members have been made aware of my personal thoughts and feelings. And even then, I’m extremely careful with the things I share and how much of those things I decide to share. On the whole, I’m not very comfortable taking people into my confidence and revealing such thoughts and feelings about myself unless I know them well enough to feel assured I can trust them or the person is a professional who’s ethically bound to keep information from patients in the strictest confidence.

The answer is I think so…

I have a huge empathy problem thus I tend to try to see or sometimes feel what or why other people feel this way… It caused me to be suicidal once XD

and

No

I don’t stop when a conversation becomes personal. I mean it is personal… but there are to types of personal for me one is before the other is after a certain line…

Before the line is anything or everything about me after is when you try to mess with those close to me and that is a totally different conversation

XD