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Try listening to OTHER peoples problems for a change.
It may alter your own perspective. :)

I have…. thanks for the.. help..

“a friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity”

Keep at it.
Theres someone out there that cares for you.
And likewise theres someone that needs your concern.

There is someone that sincerely knows what youre going through.
Look up, He’s closer than you realise.

hmm that makes sense, but how do you find out what happens if you end up overlooking a person that could need help and such.

Things usually have a way of working themselves out.
Sometimes you do overlook people.
You are not meant to deal with every single person you come in contact with.
Only certain ones that God has placed in your life.

Lonliness is a hard emotion to deal with, its an emotion that is individual ( some people love their own company and therefore seldom lonely) no two people have the same interpretation of the word lonely.

You mention the fact that:
2. I am afraid to go to supermarkets in case someone I know see’s me( have no idea why ),

I suffered this as a teenager, I would not socialise locally incase people I knew would see me, I figured after years of looking that I believe this comes from the fact that if you see people you know you will appear weak and a loner, you have little friends so small talk will be awkward etc. So you avoid the places where people know you.

You say you watch TV, Soaps etc, well try watching documentaries instead, and the news, local news if possible, that way if you bump into people in the supermarket you have issues to talk about and not tongue tied, and awkward and wanting to avoid people.

Stop looking for validation from others, you can only get this from you. (could be a lot of the reason for the wish to avoid supermarkets too). You validate you, you make you feel good.

people will not be friends with negative people, they want upbeat positive people around them, if you are positive you will attract friends, sit down and write out an about me list, list your good and be honest about your bad, if you are you dont have to show them to the world, keep those at home…!!

Try new hobbies or interests, most sports or pastimes, etc, have try me dates, so go along and try loads of new things if you not sure thats your buzz…… I ended up a scuba diver and love it so much.

I have many many great and loyal friends now, whereas a teenager I had none, I am upbeat, happy (even when things go wrong, be positive), im far from perfect, id actually say im a scrrew up, but hey all the more fun too..lol

Stop making life about other people, you find what makes you happy, have fun, be chilled, be positive and friends will come to you

Sending you a giant cyber hug

You are definitely not alone I relate to all of that. There are a lot of people who overcome those things…eventually. It takes work and practicing associating with people again and interacting with them.

Have you tried walking outside, taking a walk looking at the beauty
There’s a vitamin supplement called SAMe. you can get at your locl
WalMart, WalGreens, Target, it might help