Are you on any kind of medication?
windmills, wrote:
Are you on any kind of medication?
No.
I want you to feel good about yourself.
I need to stop drinking. I need to stop binge eating. Find a way to sleep without pills. Get healthy. And get productive. I need to stop hiding from people for months at a time.
You know, they aren’t big problems, but they add up to a life where I’m drunk all the time, no sleep, no work, unhealthy, and my body just hates it, and yesterday was one of those days where everything hurt and was sore and I just couldnt move. I lost my keys and I couldn’t leave the house. I just sat there and kind’ve gave in.
I hope you achieve your goals. Say if there is anything we could do to help.
Do you have any kind of hobbies or sports you can engage in? I try to set goals for myself so that I can remain productive. But sometimes it’s not enough. :/
I’m not sure how you feel about the idea of professional help or if you have already been down that road, yet haven’t had much luck. It’s just a suggestion, though, in case you have exhausted all of your other options or feel like you could use the help of someone more qualified and experienced to treat these problems. I have never experienced help from a therapist, so I cannot say whether it’s actually useful or not.
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Hey Snar.
Some of us have been telling you over the years. Others saw the problem and minded their own business hoping you’d finally come to that conclusion on your own.
You’re an awesome, intelligent, talented person. What a waste it seemed that you would allow these addictions to weigh you down and keep you from releasing your incredible potential into the world. What I’m saying is that some of us really cared about you. But no one can force you to do the things we know should get done. Those stupid addictions are coming in the way of you becoming everything we know you can be.
You came here and admitted to the problem you need help with. That’s a really good first step. You need to find the strength and honesty to do the same with the people in your life.
And of course, find a support group that you can join. You’ll be surrounded by others that have the same problems and also, some that have made it through and know what you’re dealing with.
Here’s a place to start: http://www.canadadrugrehab.ca/British…
Just do it, Snar. Please…
ML
Snar wrote:
I need to stop drinking. I need to stop binge eating. Find a way to sleep without pills. Get healthy. And get productive. I need to stop hiding from people for months at a time.
You know, they aren’t big problems, but they add up to a life where I’m drunk all the time, no sleep, no work, unhealthy, and my body just hates it, and yesterday was one of those days where everything hurt and was sore and I just couldnt move. I lost my keys and I couldn’t leave the house. I just sat there and kind’ve gave in.
i know exactly what you’re going through, I binge drink (only on weekends in clubs) and it ***** with my head really badly because i’m depressed, i binge eat am suffering from lack of sleep and hate myself as well, is there anyone you can talk to about this? i find whenever these thoughts get too much i talk to my sister and it helps, or normally i devise a plan in my head about how to sort out on problem at a time. Like this week i’ve decided i’m not going out drinking so my mind can piece itself together again, i’m gonna crack down on my dieting a bit more, and i’m gonna try and be more positive and look forward to things a bit more. or if you can’t devise it in your head write it down it does help to have a plan to sort out your problems but just do it one by one like maybe try going on a diet if you hate the way you look I have and its done wonders for my confidence exercising helps as well it releases endorphins, if you are a heavy drinker and you think you have a problem you may need help, also learn to find things about yourself that you like i know how hard it is but there are always certain qualities about a person which are nice
If there is a habit in your life that causes you difficulty
or an addiction or a behavior you dislike in yourself, ask yourself these questions to break into your putting-off-change attitudes.
Is there an area of my life that I’m unhappy about?
What is someone who knows me well and cares about my well-being advising me to do?
What reasons might I have for wanting to change this behavior?
What excuses have I been telling myself to keep myself from moving forward?
How do I distract myself away from taking positive action?
What fears underlie making this change?
What beliefs do I have that create huge obstacles in my mind?
What positive outcomes can I see if I make this adaptation?
What is the first step that I could take?
What is in it for me to start this change process?
I think part of the problem is that you think you are somehow different then everyone else. That what every one else tells you to do will not work for you. I think what you need to do is realize that yes you are just like the rest of us. That in order to get it together, you are going to have to do what every other person with an addiction has to do, you either go to rehab, work a support group program, or go see a psychologist who can help you talk out what is going on in that head of yours.
And even though you don’t want to be on medication, you need to be.
Now get your *** off the couch and get it done. OR I will have to go get marylou and drag her back to Canada where we are going to bombard you with positive thinking!!
Love and hugs and a kiss on the head.
Change it up a bit buddy:)
Rattle your cage, take up mountain biking or get a big dog and go for runs.
Move and avoid all triggers.
Join a volunteer group where people depend on you to eat.
Go to coffee shops at 7.00 am an meet the morning people…lol…I dare you!
babacup wrote:
Now get your *** off the couch and get it done. OR I will have to go get MaryLou and drag her back to Canada where we are going to bombard you with positive thinking!!
Love and hugs and a kiss on the head.
:) Hehe… Too bad I’m from the East coast ’cause I WOULD drop by and pay you a visit, real soon. :) (Vacation time is coming. Yay!)
Yeah, Snar, if what Babacup mentioned in her reply is true, about what part of the problem is, trust me, I can still understand that. But addictions are addictions and that is where you are not so different from others who are struggling with them. And that is where they can help you, regardless of other differences between them and you!
Habits are hard to break so yeah, I dare you too, to start doing things differently, instead of going through the same old patterns over and over again. Max has got some idea there. Try changing your habits. Do others activities you wouldn’t normally do.
Talk later, Snar. Let us know how you’re doing. And keep it honest. Take care, buddy. x :) :)
ML
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Max wrote:
Change it up a bit buddy:)
Rattle your cage, take up mountain biking or get a big dog and go for runs.
Move and avoid all triggers.
Join a volunteer group where people depend on you to eat.
Go to coffee shops at 7.00 am an meet the morning people…lol…I dare you!
I woke up early this morning, I may do just that. I did early this year, kind’ve got my days started on the right foot to be productive in the mornings, bring my work to coffee shops.
Remember that you are a fearless pioneer on a daring adventure to find love and beauty in and around you. Everything is an opportunity, well before you ascribe it with any meaning. Allow life to happen THROUGH you, and WITH you, rather than to you. It’s time to claim your power, and leave yesterday’s disappointment in a vault marked “things I’ve grown through but they don’t define me ANY more.”
Read this today and thought of you. Don’t let your past actions define you any more. You are on a new path.
Glad to see you got your day stated on the right foot today!
Snar wrote:
Max wrote:
Change it up a bit buddy:)
Rattle your cage, take up mountain biking or get a big dog and go for runs.
Move and avoid all triggers.
Join a volunteer group where people depend on you to eat.
Go to coffee shops at 7.00 am an meet the morning people…lol…I dare you!
I woke up early this morning, I may do just that. I did early this year, kind’ve got my days started on the right foot to be productive in the mornings, bring my work to coffee shops.
I deal everyday day with various groups.
The one thing that always brings change is changing it up.
When I’m falling behind…I just do it…no thinky …just do:)
Morning people do..
Coffee shops here are full of trades people and Presidents of companies at 7.00 am and fill up with the complainers at 11.00.
Productive is a word I use at the end of a day…not the beginning:)
If you haven’t ever been to an AA meeting, then you should go, to several. It’s just too easy to reject their whole system based on analysis of how illogical some of their ideas are from a distance. The wisdom and power becomes much more obvious if you go to some meetings. It really moved me… and I didn’t even really directly relate, not being into drinking alcohol.
president mindhealer wrote:
If you haven’t ever been to an AA meeting, then you should go, to several. It’s just too easy to reject their whole system based on analysis of how illogical some of their ideas are from a distance. The wisdom and power becomes much more obvious if you go to some meetings. It really moved me… and I didn’t even really directly relate, not being into drinking alcohol.
Just curious, do you go to any other support groups that you can’t directly relate to?
verge wrote:
president mindhealer wrote:
If you haven’t ever been to an AA meeting, then you should go, to several. It’s just too easy to reject their whole system based on analysis of how illogical some of their ideas are from a distance. The wisdom and power becomes much more obvious if you go to some meetings. It really moved me… and I didn’t even really directly relate, not being into drinking alcohol.
Just curious, do you go to any other support groups that you can’t directly relate to?
I’ve been through lots of situations that weren’t quite relevant to me, yes. Like I audited classes at school rather than being a for-credit-student.
Sorry if that’s not getting at what you want to know. I’ve known and worked with many people who were going through treatment and programs because of problems with alcohol, so most of what I actually think of is from talking to them, but I also have been to some of the actual meetings.
No, it seemed relevant to me. That is very neat. I hadn’t heard of auditing classes.
I know how you feel. I’ve been there and back and there again. With me it’s not eating and not sleeping, it makes me feel like crap. I wish I could offer more advice, but my life sucks right now as well. Just keep on fighting for it.
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Hey, right there with you.
Tommorrow get up, take a shower, get dressed
take a nice walk outside look up at the sky
look at the trees, flowers all the beauty
Sending you a Giant Cyber Hug :)
Can i add you to my help.com prayer book ??
Take care
I’m very proud of you for opening up. Having an open heart is starting where you are. If you don’t’ start there, nothing can change. If you try to change a front image than you will just relapse because you will only keep it up until you pick another image to live by.
I’ve never battled alcohol, but I have had things I felt I needed that didn’t help me, that hurt me actually. Everyone has something they do when things are too much. If you raise your ability to deal than you’ll not need those things to deal with what is happening. Eventually you can also learn different ways to handle when things get to be to much.
It doesn’t sound like you are much different than anyone else in this matter. These are just symptoms of things not being right. Set things right and the symptoms are not there.
Your current thinking and beliefs have gotten you to this place, the only way to be in a different place is to adopt new thinking and beliefs. They create your life. Maybe you can keep the same ones and find new ways to get them taken care of.
I use this even to this day. For everything I know might not be the best for me but I want to do it anyway, I ask myself, “what would having or doing this give me?” I follow that trail for sometimes 10 or 15 minutes re asking the same question to every answer I find.
It’s never let me down. You know what you need inside of you. Sometimes people help us get to those answers, sometimes asking ourselves helps us get to those answers, some people see therapists. You will know what is right for you inside of you. Reaching out sounds like a great plan. Kudos to you!
Snar wrote:
I need to stop drinking. I need to stop binge eating. Find a way to sleep without pills. Get healthy. And get productive. I need to stop hiding from people for months at a time.
You know, they aren’t big problems, but they add up to a life where I’m drunk all the time, no sleep, no work, unhealthy, and my body just hates it, and yesterday was one of those days where everything hurt and was sore and I just couldnt move. I lost my keys and I couldn’t leave the house. I just sat there and kind’ve gave in.
Get yourself a dog and take him for walks. They are mans best friend.
They like taking hikes and don’t judge:)
Thank-you all so much for your support. I’ve been sluggishly moving forward this week.
Moving forward while feeling the way you do rather than waiting for things to be all better before you venture on, I find very wise.
I agree with Max, Find some people who don’t judge and are willing to do some activities with you. I think those are some of the best experiences you can find in this world.
Snar wrote:
Thank-you all so much for your support. I’ve been sluggishly moving forward this week.
Max wrote:
Get yourself a dog and take him for walks. They are mans best friend.
They like taking hikes and don’t judge:)
in my small town, sure it’s all places, you have to clean up your dog droppings
But the Amish with their horse and buggies leave more a mess than any dog
My neighbor got a chocolate Lab and I borrow him all the time. The dog is a blast and he can talk! Well sort of…lol. Get a dog Snar:)
i think labs are the best
I had one once, until the mean old old school bus driver ran it over
She was the best dog. When get in the car on Sundays when i went to get my Sunday paper.
Thanks for helping remember good, Her name was Sadie
Snar wrote:
Thank-you all so much for your support. I’ve been sluggishly moving forward this week.
You still at school or back home?
I’d love a dog though thats not feasible given my current location.
@Babacup.
Home, and off I am to the library!
They have tea cup dogs. Their are supper small, Could probably pass him off as a rodent. lol Wouldn’t cost much to feed either
Snar wrote:
I’d love a dog though thats not feasible given my current location.
@Babacup.
Home, and off I am to the library!
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