relationship help: Am I going to hear from him?

JELLY48

Am I going to hear from him?

I had an intense romance with a guy about 3 months ago (it lasted for a month). Things ended…not badly, but I was not in the right place at the time to pursue anything, and he didn’t really know how to handle it.
Anyway, we ran into each about about a week ago at a restaurant (he was at a large business dinner and I was with some girlfriends). I was talking to a male friend of mine (who was a bit drunk and being very flirtatious) when he noticed my girlfriends and me. He came over and then brought over a bottle of champagne. He left after his dinner and came back an hour later. He went to talk to my friends (he knows one of them as she dates his friend), and I was at the bar with my male friend.

I emailed him a week later thanking him for the champagne and asking how his summer is going. He wrote back a nice e-mail, but left it close ended with “hope all is well.” I wrote back and told him it would be nice to catch up and grab coffee or a drink. He responded with “I would love to! Lets shoot for later next” as he was busy with something for work.

It’s not 8 days later, and I have not heard from him. When we dated he was absolutely on top of confirming every date & plan in advance. I know this is different…but now I feel like I wont hear from him and he isn’t interested?

Clearly im still very interested & having feelings. Sorry if this is ridiculous question. Any advice????

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southern_comfort 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

We would have no more insight into his thinking if we called 1-800-PSYCHICS.

Can you call him? It would not be out of line for you to do so.

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ilivelife 11 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Send him a message! Why is it his responsibility to arrange it and contact you?

If he doesn’t reply, or fobs you off, it may be that he has changed his mind/isn’t interested, but at least you’ll know.

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Pac's Queen 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (58 minutes after post)

I’m going through a similar thing. My ex told me last week about 3 times that it would be nice to meet up. I said yes then no then yes again because I just wasn’t sure whether it was a good time. Well my last response was yes and there’s a part of me that feels like he’s going to change his mind. I really would like to see him and I hope that us seeing each other sparks back feelings again because I truly do care for him.
I think you should message him just casually, not about the metting, and see what he says. He might bring it up. I do agree with ilivelife in a way because you can contact him

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verge 134 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (6 hours, 6 minutes after post)

I think you should shoot him an email with a proposed time and place for a date. There is no harm in this, he might be waiting for you to take the initiative because you wounded him on the last go around. Good luck!

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JELLY48 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (6 hours, 20 minutes after post)

I didn’t wound him. It was completely mutual. So, that’s I’m stuck. Do I let it go or reach out?

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verge 134 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (6 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Reach out once. If he takes you up on your offer, you’re good to go :) Don’t worry, you have nothing to lose.

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JELLY48 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (6 hours, 33 minutes after post)

But if he proposed this week then isn’t the ball in his court? I don’t want to come off as too eager or desperate

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verge 134 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (6 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Not necessarily. If he said this week, you should probably pick the time and place and ask him whether that is good. If he says yes, then everything is worked out, if he says no to that time and doesn’t urge you to find a new one or find one himself, he probably isn’t interested. Just let it play out. If he likes you, your finding a time and place for a get together won’t put him off. He said he wanted to see you this week, so believe him.

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