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delete the pics.
I dont know the kind of relationship you have with your father.
But I would mention it sometime when you two are alone.
If you are able to deal with it lightly with your father then communicate it to him how you feel about it.
Is he the sort of man that has pictures of women anywhere?
And are there some things in your life that you are not proud of?
If there are, deal with them first in your life.
This is a serious issue, but please dont make it more of an issue by dragging it longer than it ought.
Just go talk to him about it.
I dont know his reasons for taking the picture, and neither do you.

Absolutely do not show or tell anyone else.
Ask him for forgiveness if you have.

GO to him first with tact and humility and if he recieves you then all will be well.
If he rebuffs you or becomes defensive, only afterwards do you tell someone such as your mother.

You must.

It would be wrong for you to tell anyone else.
Honor your father and go to him first.

IS there an unbiased third party you could go to, like an Aunt or Uncle? I don’t think you should take it to your mom. It would hurt her. Growing up my parents were simlar (goofy dad who has a tendency to do and say things without thinking about how it will affect others) I would say that showing her would only hurt her. She knows what kind of person he is, but she doesn’t have to see it. If I was you I would open those pictures in paint program and scribble some choice words on them like “you know better”. lol. I hope you have someone who can be an intermediary and let your dad know that this behavior is unacceptable.

Question. What was a “scantily dressed” woman doing at a wedding? If it was appropriate clothing for a wedding than the photos stay. Why should you be put in the position of ‘CENSOR’ to your Dad’s pictures? He knew what he was doing, unless he was wasted. So she was cute and showed a little cleavage. Last I checked that isn’t a crime.

southern_comfort, IP wrote:
Question. What was a “scantily dressed” woman doing at a wedding? If it was appropriate clothing for a wedding than the photos stay. Why should you be put in the position of ‘CENSOR’ to your Dad’s pictures? He knew what he was doing, unless he was wasted. So she was cute and showed a little cleavage. Last I checked that isn’t a crime.

Thats the problem here.
No one including the OP knows the motives for WHY he took those pictures.
Theres no excuse for it. But please allow him to save face.
Go to him FIRST with tact and humulity.
DO NOT absolutely do not show them or tell anyone else yet.
No uncles or aunts or grandpa or grandma or cousin Mel.

No!

Please go to him first.
If he becomes hostile or defensive or makes excuses, then and ONLY then should you get someone else involved.

That sounds very awkward for you. I suggest that you do not take this to your mom, just as Anonymous said earlier. However, I would not write on the photos either. I would confront my father directly and tell him that you are not comfortable with seeing this. After that, that’s pretty much all you can do. Good luck!

He’s your father not some stranger.
Go to him.

There’s no harm in looking. I don’t think there’s any need to make an issue of it. If you’d seen your dad flirting with another woman, or found love letters, or something like that I can see how you’d be upset. But even happily married people who would never dream of cheating sometimes admire a good-looking stranger. It’s not unfaithful behavior in my opinion.

…. Upload those pictures to facebook too.. Hahaha!!!

samu284 wrote:
Thanks to you guys who sent me serious answers….I decided not to tell my mom since there’s nothing she could do about it but get angry anyway. I don’t need to add any more insecurities to her list lol. I want her to be happy more than anything. I still don’t know if I’ll talk to my dad about it. We’re asian and such talks are taboo in our culture. -_- But I’ll respect his right to do whatever he wants.

May God shine on you, mija and give you the courage to do the best thing.
((((HUG))))

In all seriousness….. I’d talk to my dad. It really is a matter that needs to not be left unattended… If this fantasy grows at all, it could blossom into reality… I’m sorry for the situation this puts you in.. I tried to lighten the mood a little… I apologize for any disrespect.

roofdonkey wrote:
delete the pics.
I dont know the kind of relationship you have with your father.
But I would mention it sometime when you two are alone.
If you are able to deal with it lightly with your father then communicate it to him how you feel about it.
Is he the sort of man that has pictures of women anywhere?
And are there some things in your life that you are not proud of?
If there are, deal with them first in your life.
This is a serious issue, but please dont make it more of an issue by dragging it longer than it ought.
Just go talk to him about it.
I dont know his reasons for taking the picture, and neither do you.

mynameis425 wrote:
In all seriousness….. I’d talk to my dad. It really is a matter that needs to not be left unattended… If this fantasy grows at all, it could blossom into reality… I’m sorry for the situation this puts you in.. I tried to lighten the mood a little… I apologize for any disrespect.

yup, that about covers it.