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Hi I am new at this so bare with me.

My ex husband and my 14 year old daughter had a big argument about 3 months ago
And since then she hasnt seen or spoken to him. During there argument he started swearing and yelling
At her because she was being disrespectful to me. So now, even though I have tried. Umber outs
Times to get her to make amends with him, he is now blaming me for all of it because
He was sticking up for me because of her attitude. I talked to my daughter tonight and told her that
The reason he was mad and freaked out on her was because she was being disrespectful to me, and that
He now thinks its my fault she won’t talk to him.
She told me tonight that that argument just made her blow up because she
Has been upset with him about choosing his numerous girlfriends over her and her brother
For 7 years now, and that she thinks he is a horrible father.
Should it be up to me to MAKE her talk to him, cause I’ve tried and all she says is no he is no longer
A part of my life.

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Hi I am new at this so bear with me. My ex husband and my 14 year old daughter had a big argument about 3 months ago
And since then she hasnt seen or spoken to him. During there argument he started swearing and yelling
At her because she was being disrespectful to me. So now, even though I have tried. Umber outs
Times to get her to make amends with him, he is now blaming me for all of it because
He was sticking up for me because of her attitude. I talked to my daughter tonight and told her that
The reason he was mad and freaked out on her was because she was being disrespectful to me, and that
He now thinks its my fault she won’t talk to him.
She told me tonight that that argument just made her blow up because she
Has been upset with him about choosing his numerous girlfriends over her and her brother
For 7 years now, and that she thinks he is a horrible father.
Should it be up to me to MAKE her talk to him, cause I’ve tried and all she says is no he is no longer
A part of my life.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Her father is your ex-husband. So I would recommend you not to interfere in the controversies of them. Her father should be able to manage it by his own — if not, it remains his problem.

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Dr. Jackson offline Verified User (5 years) Long Term User Shouts: 43 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Hmm this is a tough choice. Can you arrange a family counseling session? Like get the dad to agree to one and then sit in a room with a counselor for a few hours and work it out. Seems to me that most of it is miss-communication and an unwillingness to listen.

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jovigir offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

Thank you so much for your replies. I will look into the family counseling. Thanks Zirbel, your
Reply was actually the same opinion that I have. I have talked to her
About talking things out with her dad almost daily since this happened
But I can’t MAKE her talk to him on the phone, and I can’t drag her out
of the house by her hair to take her to see him. This has been a long
Time coming…. I don’t know what kind of relationship he thought he was
Going to establish with our kids only seeing them 4 days a month for
The last 8 years, and even when they were with him he would shoe them
Away to have privite time with his girlfriends. I haven’t even dated in the last 8 years
I have made sure that they had at least one stable and loving environment.

Zirbel wrote:
Her father is your ex-husband. So I would recommend you not to interfere in the controversies of them. Her father should be able to manage it by his own — if not, it remains his problem.

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