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Lately I’ve been going to my boyfriend’s house quite often.

My boyfriend’s brother is only one year older than me and has a girlfriend. Somehow his behavior seems to change whenever I’m over at my boyfriend’s house. I notice him looking at me when he enters the same room I’m in and even when I walk past him. He pretends to not know where certain stuff are supposed to be so that I simply talk to him. He also teases my boyfriend more when I’m around. What seems to be funny is that he shaves and applied aftershave for the first time when I was at their house. He never puts on a shirt when I’m around and when he finds out that I’m coming over he rarely goes out with his friends. He also took a shower and applies deodorant when I’m at my boyfriend’s house. I think he likes me but I’m not absolutely sure and his actions are making my boyfriend jealous and a bit frustrated but I’m not sure if his brother is actually flirting or not. Is he =S?

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Cowso offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Only you can answer that question… Ask him:)

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Well, that sounds messy. You can ask him, or show him how much your boyfriend means to you. Good luck!

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sarisa_grimwing offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Well if you’re straight with him you may embarrass him, which could ruin a possible good friendship.
It does sound like he has a crush on you though.
Tread lightly though because these are brothers, and if you do embarrass or upset him he may try to sabotage the relationship.(Experience in the past with a similar situation between brothers and also room mates)
So… my suggestion is just be friendly but if he ever pushes that boundary of trying to get too close, put your foot down and let him know that you are with his brother, and you care about him. I would at that point immediately let your boyfriend know.
Also try to keep yourself out of any situation that may leave your boyfriends brother and you alone at the same house.

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the tree offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

From the way you’re describing it, he sounds like a flirt! Could be that you’re overreacting. The only way to be sure is to ask him, or if you’re not comfortable with that just reassure your boyfriend and be more affectionate towards your boyfriend around him. If flirting was his intention, I’m sure he’ll get the message eventually!
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cookie-monster.10 offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (22 hours, 58 minutes after post)

the problem is that I’m not really friends with him =/ today he showed up at the beach which is quite close to where I live. I was with my boyfriend and he told me that he never went to that particular beach before. My boyfriend told me that he caught him checking his mobile for some reason. He also started to fool around while I was on the cam with my boyfriend and my boyfriend left for sometime to check something. I don’t know what’s happening =/

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sarisa_grimwing offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Why didn’t you go with your boyfriend? Maybe he was testing you to see if anything would happen between his brother and you. Who knows.
Let your boyfriend know you’d rather not be alone with his brother.

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cookie-monster.10 offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

I’m always near my boyfriend but I can’t go with him if he has to go to the bathroom for example. I always wait for him alone in his bedroom but the last time I went to his house, his brother came in the same room. But they share the same room by the way.

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