Love help: HAD A BAD DAY AGAIN SO UPSET

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SO PISSED OFF!!!

Just had such a **** day, in fact I’ve had so many I’ve lost count it’s not even funny anymore.

Suicide will never be an option for me, but some days I feel like I wish i could slip into a coma and not wake up for a month or so seriously if there was a sleeping pill strong enough to put me into a coma for a couple of weeks I’d ******* take it in a heartbeat because it’d be better than staying awake feeling like this.

So yeah my life is pretty much ****, I’m 21 and I should be popular but i’ve not even got 1 ******* friend to my name my supposed “mates” are all ******* let downs and I wish they’d die and go to hell, 1 mate of mine INSISTS on banging on and on and on about her boyfriend like he’s the best thing in the Universe when the prick forgot to wear a condom when he ****** her and 2 weeks ago she messaged me at 1AM with a pregnancy scare I feel like she’s bragging about him on purpose to try and upstage me with my boyfriend, I wrote on my BBM status (blackberry messenger for those that don’t know) that I was debating whether or not to invite my boyfriend to a small family BBQ next Firday it’s literally just my sister her boyfriend (i think of him as my brother in law) and my sister’s mate the reason i wrote I was debating this was because on Fridays he gets up at 4AM to go to work and finishes at 12PM the BBQ would prob start at 4 or 5 at the latest which would mean he’d prob have 4 maybe 3 hours of sleep so then the ******* immature ***** wrote “So happy that everyone in my family loves my boyfriend lol” which was blatantly aimed at me I’m so sick of her going on about him like he’s the best boyfriend when HE’S ******* NOT like I said he had sex with her without a condom and i know they’re not trying to conceive coz if they were why did she message me at 1AM panicking and asking for my advice? Earlier on today she also wrote like it’s some kind of joke her boyfriend said he wanted girls and a 3way I’m sorry they’ve been together a month and he wants a 3way? My boyfriend said that to me I would ******* slap him especially after 1 month and you can say about i’m being judgemental or w/e I’m not SHE IS because I messaged her about my doubts about my boyfriend 3 weeks ago (he’s my first boyfriend so doubts are natural at first because it was very confusing and idk if he liked me etc) and she said “Why are you with him if you don’t love him?” at the time I didn’t know what love was but now I know I do love him but ever since I’ve got a boyfriend it’s like she’s doing this pathetic little competition with me the “who’s boyfriends best” competition ergh no contest there love my boyfriend wouldn’t be ******* stupid enough to not wear protection during sex, he wouldn’t pressure me for a 3way and whatever job this ******* MUG works if he works at all coz he looks like he just came of the set of “Harry Brown” I can gurantee my boyfriend works a better job and gets paid more (getting up in the AM to work at a mall apparently earns you more money) and drives a better car so there you go competition over.

Oh yeah and to make matters worse and old friend of mine I met at a place where I worked (technically it wasn’t a job coz it was voluntary and I didn’t get paid it was in a charity shop) said we’d go out at some point just let her know so I asked her if she was out this weekend and she’s ******* IGNORED ME. SURPRISE SURPRISE! I don’t ******* get it anymore am I a horrible person? Am I a social retard? Why do people not want to be my friends? Anyone who says I’m not there for them is a ******* liar, i was there for my mate with her pregnancy scare, I’m always asking if my friends are ok when they write about their bad days or w/e on BBM. I’m just getting so sick of this, all I want is just ONE friend that is all

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

mindhealer 52 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (4 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Am I a social retard?

I don’t know, but if you want to improve your social life, there are endless resources available to guide you in that direction — I’ve found that just having the word “social” be a keyword toward the top of my priorities can make a dramatic difference within a few days. That if I’m devoting my attention to any available resources about “social skills” “social wisdom” “social life” etc, that things do get better. I don’t generally have time to do that, and it all seems to fade when I move on to dealing with other things, but it helps briefly and packs useful knowledge into me.

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trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (4 hours, 4 minutes after post)

president mindhealer wrote:

Am I a social retard?

I don’t know, but if you want to improve your social life, there are endless resources available to guide you in that direction — I’ve found that just having the word “social” be a keyword toward the top of my priorities can make a dramatic difference within a few days. That if I’m devoting my attention to any available resources about “social skills” “social wisdom” “social life” etc, that things do get better. I don’t generally have time to do that, and it all seems to fade when I move on to dealing with other things, but it helps briefly and packs useful knowledge into me.

I’m sorry but I don’t get it, my mind’s focused on something else atm I’m going through a bit of a headfuck what do you mean?

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

mindhealer 52 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (4 hours, 37 minutes after post)

trentlover20 wrote:
I’m sorry but I don’t get it, my mind’s focused on something else atm I’m going through a bit of a headfuck what do you mean?

I mean that you can google the word “social” every day, read many pages, improve social skills, and never have to feel bad because of social inadequacy. Just advice, suggestion, based on the experience that it works.

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TripleTT 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (5 hours, 20 minutes after post)

I would start with a huge ATTITUDE check! I’m not trying to be mean but if you were a friend I knew and I just read your post and others “not all” I would be like really.

I would be staying away from you totaly because it would be depressing just listening to how you talk and carry on. Not depressing because of what your dealing with but how you present yourself.

Big sign “no friends” friends ignore you” say they will hang out then dont” get it!

Life has got to really suck for you and I see why……..you talk like a sailor have a filthy mouth and very depressing to even listen to let alone hang out with!

So getting to the point you want friends lots of friend just one good friend be popular! etc…….

Then get a better attitude get positive. You will never get positive results with a negative attitude.

I’m homestly and sincerely not trying to be mean and I know this sounds mean but you want to be happy have a good life have friends and people care for you and want to be around you then become a person that people are drawn to and want to be around….

Even if you feel like the biggest **** that day dont show it on your sleeve….

There’s gotta be a great person deep inside under all your frustration…..let it out!

I will gladly listen to you if you seriously want direction and help in being the type of person that people are going to want to be around. You want to be popular and have friends who want to hang with you or do you want to sit back and whimper whine and complain??????

Your not asking for help just complaining and then when someone points something out to you your head is all up ur a^^ and you dont listen or hear what they say!

Thats it! I just had to get that out there. Respond how ever you like I will read it but will be the last post I read if you don’t want help to change……..

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trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (5 hours, 39 minutes after post)

To the previous reply yes I see what you mean but when I’m around my friends I’m not like this, second I talk to them pretty much every day and they’ve been there for me so in some ways they qualify as real friends the problem is I don’t get to see them because they’re either working or with their boyfriends, from my post its very easy to judge me as a depressing person but you don’t know me at all I was just having a bad week I find what you wrote offensive and helpful but the problems been solved anyway coz what I wrote was a misunderstanding, I appreciate your advice and I understand your frustration but you don’t know me and you don’t know half of what I’ve been through

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (5 hours, 39 minutes after post)

To the previous reply yes I see what you mean but when I’m around my friends I’m not like this, second I talk to them pretty much every day and they’ve been there for me so in some ways they qualify as real friends the problem is I don’t get to see them because they’re either working or with their boyfriends, from my post its very easy to judge me as a depressing person but you don’t know me at all I was just having a bad week I find what you wrote offensive and helpful but the problems been solved anyway coz what I wrote was a misunderstanding, I appreciate your advice and I understand your frustration but you don’t know me and you don’t know half of what I’ve been through

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (16 hours, 51 minutes after post)

nolater wrote:
I would start with a huge ATTITUDE check! I’m not trying to be mean but if you were a friend I knew and I just read your post and others “not all” I would be like really.

I would be staying away from you totaly because it would be depressing just listening to how you talk and carry on. Not depressing because of what your dealing with but how you present yourself.

Big sign “no friends” friends ignore you” say they will hang out then dont” get it!

Life has got to really suck for you and I see why……..you talk like a sailor have a filthy mouth and very depressing to even listen to let alone hang out with!

So getting to the point you want friends lots of friend just one good friend be popular! etc…….

Then get a better attitude get positive. You will never get positive results with a negative attitude.

I’m homestly and sincerely not trying to be mean and I know this sounds mean but you want to be happy have a good life have friends and people care for you and want to be around you then become a person that people are drawn to and want to be around….

Even if you feel like the biggest **** that day dont show it on your sleeve….

There’s gotta be a great person deep inside under all your frustration…..let it out!

I will gladly listen to you if you seriously want direction and help in being the type of person that people are going to want to be around. You want to be popular and have friends who want to hang with you or do you want to sit back and whimper whine and complain??????

Your not asking for help just complaining and then when someone points something out to you your head is all up ur a^^ and you dont listen or hear what they say!

Thats it! I just had to get that out there. Respond how ever you like I will read it but will be the last post I read if you don’t want help to change……..

Right first of all yes you are right about a lot of things I have got to be more positive and an a nicer person and I need to change a hundred percent thankyou for pointing that out it’s given me a different perspective, second of all not to burst your bubble but I have Asperges syndrome so it’s more than just “an attitude problem” you don’t know anything about me or what I’ve been through how dare you judge me for having “a mouth like a sailor” on a stupid post that was made during the heat of the moment and other things were going on that day other than just “not having friends”

Third of all why did you come on here just to make me feel even worse? sounds like you were the one ranting if you ask me what the hell was that last bit about “i’m out of here” why are you getting so frustrated when you hardly even know me. Also have you met me in person? Have you met me when I’m in a nightclub or a bar with my mates and we’re all having a laugh do you really think if they didn’t want to know or they were “avoiding me” they’d be messaging me at 1AM with a pregnancy scare on their mind, or asking me if they want a spray tan (I do mobile spray tanning atm) or asking if I’m ok when I’m upset coz I thought I’m down 400 pounds? They embody all the qualities of good friends they’re just not available to go on nights out with me because they’re always working or they’re out with their other friends there is a difference so you’ve clearly got the wrong end of the stick on that one.

I understand where you’re coming from and you’re not the first person to try and tell me I have an attitude problem but you say “I’m not being mean” er you just were and you made me feel even worse. I appreciate your advice but you saying to me I need an attitude check is a bit hypocritical when all I got from your post was that I’m the reason why I’m not popular to some extent yes that is true but I’m not like this when I’m around my friends, I’m cheery, I’m a laugh I’ve got personality and like I said if you didn’t think that was true do you really think they’d be on my blackberry messenger and I’d be seeing them out on nights out once every often?

[quote nolater]I would start with a huge ATTITUDE check! I'm not trying to be mean but if you were a friend I knew and I just read your post and others "not all" I would be like really.

I would be staying away from you totaly because it would be depressing just listening to how you talk and carry on. Not depressing because of what your dealing with but how you present yourself.

Big sign "no friends" friends ignore you" say they will hang out then dont" get it!
 
Life has got to really suck for you and I see why........you talk like a sailor have a filthy mouth and very depressing to even listen to let alone hang out with!

So getting to the point you want friends lots of friend just one good friend be popular! etc.......

Then get a better attitude get positive. You will never get positive results with a negative attitude.

I'm homestly and sincerely not trying to be mean and I know this sounds mean but you want to be happy have a good life have friends and people care for you and want to be around you then become a person that people are drawn to and want to be around....

Even if you feel like the biggest **** that day dont show it on your sleeve....

There's gotta be a great person deep inside under all your frustration.....let it out!

I will gladly listen to you if you seriously want direction and help in being the type of person that people are going to want to be around. You want to be popular and have friends who want to hang with you or do you want to sit back and whimper whine and complain??????

Your not asking for help just complaining and then when someone points something out to you your head is all up ur a^^ and you dont listen or hear what they say!

Thats it! I just had to get that out there. Respond how ever you like I will read it but will be the last post I read if you don't want help to change........[/quote]

Right first of all yes you are right about a lot of things I have got to be more positive and an a nicer person and I need to change a hundred percent thankyou for pointing that out it's given me a different perspective, second of all not to burst your bubble but I have Asperges syndrome so it's more than just "an attitude problem" you don't know anything about me or what I've been through how dare you judge me for having "a mouth like a sailor" on a stupid post that was made during the heat of the moment and other things were going on that day other than just "not having friends"

Third of all why did you come on here just to make me feel even worse? sounds like you were the one ranting if you ask me what the hell was that last bit about "i'm out of here" why are you getting so frustrated when you hardly even know me. Also have you met me in person? Have you met me when I'm in a nightclub or a bar with my mates and we're all having a laugh do you really think if they didn't want to know or they were "avoiding me" they'd be messaging me at 1AM with a pregnancy scare on their mind, or asking me if they want a spray tan (I do mobile spray tanning atm) or asking if I'm ok when I'm upset coz I thought I'm down 400 pounds? They embody all the qualities of good friends they're just not available to go on nights out with me because they're always working or they're out with their other friends there is a difference so you've clearly got the wrong end of the stick on that one.

I understand where you're coming from and you're not the first person to try and tell me I have an attitude problem but you say "I'm not being mean" er you just were and you made me feel even worse. I appreciate your advice but you saying to me I need an attitude check is a bit hypocritical when all I got from your post was that I'm the reason why I'm not popular to some extent yes that is true but I'm not like this when I'm around my friends, I'm cheery, I'm a laugh I've got personality and like I said if you didn't think that was true do you really think they'd be on my blackberry messenger and I'd be seeing them out on nights out once every often?

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (23 hours, 55 minutes after post)

president mindhealer wrote:

trentlover20 wrote:
I’m sorry but I don’t get it, my mind’s focused on something else atm I’m going through a bit of a headfuck what do you mean?

I mean that you can google the word “social” every day, read many pages, improve social skills, and never have to feel bad because of social inadequacy. Just advice, suggestion, based on the experience that it works.

Thankyou :) your advice is very calming

Help me with: I feel invincible for the first time in my life.

TripleTT 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Well what you just said clarified everything to me… letting me know that you have Asperges…..! There is no way I could or would have known that from your post! And to be honest I have to bow out of this one from my own personal experience of some one I allowed to stay in my home that had the same thing……I get it and only wish you the best………no more needs to be said!

trentlover20 wrote:

nolater wrote:
I would start with a huge ATTITUDE check! I’m not trying to be mean but if you were a friend I knew and I just read your post and others “not all” I would be like really.

I would be staying away from you totaly because it would be depressing just listening to how you talk and carry on. Not depressing because of what your dealing with but how you present yourself.

Big sign “no friends” friends ignore you” say they will hang out then dont” get it!

Life has got to really suck for you and I see why……..you talk like a sailor have a filthy mouth and very depressing to even listen to let alone hang out with!

So getting to the point you want friends lots of friend just one good friend be popular! etc…….

Then get a better attitude get positive. You will never get positive results with a negative attitude.

I’m homestly and sincerely not trying to be mean and I know this sounds mean but you want to be happy have a good life have friends and people care for you and want to be around you then become a person that people are drawn to and want to be around….

Even if you feel like the biggest **** that day dont show it on your sleeve….

There’s gotta be a great person deep inside under all your frustration…..let it out!

I will gladly listen to you if you seriously want direction and help in being the type of person that people are going to want to be around. You want to be popular and have friends who want to hang with you or do you want to sit back and whimper whine and complain??????

Your not asking for help just complaining and then when someone points something out to you your head is all up ur a^^ and you dont listen or hear what they say!

Thats it! I just had to get that out there. Respond how ever you like I will read it but will be the last post I read if you don’t want help to change……..

Right first of all yes you are right about a lot of things I have got to be more positive and an a nicer person and I need to change a hundred percent thankyou for pointing that out it’s given me a different perspective, second of all not to burst your bubble but I have Asperges syndrome so it’s more than just “an attitude problem” you don’t know anything about me or what I’ve been through how dare you judge me for having “a mouth like a sailor” on a stupid post that was made during the heat of the moment and other things were going on that day other than just “not having friends”

Third of all why did you come on here just to make me feel even worse? sounds like you were the one ranting if you ask me what the hell was that last bit about “i’m out of here” why are you getting so frustrated when you hardly even know me. Also have you met me in person? Have you met me when I’m in a nightclub or a bar with my mates and we’re all having a laugh do you really think if they didn’t want to know or they were “avoiding me” they’d be messaging me at 1AM with a pregnancy scare on their mind, or asking me if they want a spray tan (I do mobile spray tanning atm) or asking if I’m ok when I’m upset coz I thought I’m down 400 pounds? They embody all the qualities of good friends they’re just not available to go on nights out with me because they’re always working or they’re out with their other friends there is a difference so you’ve clearly got the wrong end of the stick on that one.

I understand where you’re coming from and you’re not the first person to try and tell me I have an attitude problem but you say “I’m not being mean” er you just were and you made me feel even worse. I appreciate your advice but you saying to me I need an attitude check is a bit hypocritical when all I got from your post was that I’m the reason why I’m not popular to some extent yes that is true but I’m not like this when I’m around my friends, I’m cheery, I’m a laugh I’ve got personality and like I said if you didn’t think that was true do you really think they’d be on my blackberry messenger and I’d be seeing them out on nights out once every often?

Well what you just said clarified everything to me... letting me know that you have Asperges.....! There is no way I could or would have known that from your post! And to be honest I have to bow out of this one from my own personal experience of some one I allowed to stay in my home that had the same thing......I get it and only wish you the best.........no more needs to be said![quote trentlover20][quote nolater]I would start with a huge ATTITUDE check! I'm not trying to be mean but if you were a friend I knew and I just read your post and others "not all" I would be like really.