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I’m so lonely.

I have a boyfriend but I don’t want to drive him insane by constantly hanging out or constantly texting/calling him. Yet I feel that I need that attention. I want that attention so bad. I make friends easy but I don’t have close friends. I don’t know what to do anymore, I feel like I am always lonely.

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Leveler013 offline Verified User (3 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

I don’t think your boyfriend would mind you calling/texting him more than you usually do, anyway isn’t that what a boyfriend/girlfriend is for? Just my opinion though.

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Emma? offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

We’ve really only been dating for about 2 weeks though, if that helps.

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Leveler013 offline Verified User (3 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

Well, I think regardless of how long you’ve been dating you could tell him that you feel lonely and need someone to talk to. See what he says, let me know and we’ll take it from there? Unless you have anything else that I should know.

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roofdonkey offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

Leveler013 wrote:
Well, I think regardless of how long you’ve been dating you could tell him that you feel lonely and need someone to talk to. See what he says, let me know and we’ll take it from there? Unless you have anything else that I should know.

Hmmm…
Is there anyone else such as girlfriends or relatives that live near you?

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Emma? offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (10 hours, 28 minutes after post)

roofdonkey wrote:

Leveler013 wrote:
Well, I think regardless of how long you’ve been dating you could tell him that you feel lonely and need someone to talk to. See what he says, let me know and we’ll take it from there? Unless you have anything else that I should know.

Hmmm…
Is there anyone else such as girlfriends or relatives that live near you?

Not really.. My grandparents but they both work their tails off all day.

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roofdonkey offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (14 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Emma? wrote:

roofdonkey wrote:
Leveler013 wrote:
Well, I think regardless of how long you’ve been dating you could tell him that you feel lonely and need someone to talk to. See what he says, let me know and we’ll take it from there? Unless you have anything else that I should know.

Hmmm…
Is there anyone else such as girlfriends or relatives that live near you?

Not really.. My grandparents but they both work their tails off all day.

What about hair o nail salons?
And heres another idea.
Church.
Thts right. Its not only a place to learn about God. Its also a great place to make friends and establish relationships.
Whatever your belief about God is or isnt, dont underestimate the value of going to church.
Also, consider getting a pet, like a cat or small dog perhaps.

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roofdonkey offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (14 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Heres my point:
Dont let your boyfriend be the sole source of social engagement.
He’s not designed to fulfill 100% of your emotional and social needs.
He may not even desire to or be able to give you all the social attention and input that you need.
If you think that you can rely on him for all your social needs, it may just serve to push him away.

Goodluck to you and may God shine His light on you.

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