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Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough for someone?

I know it might be silly and I shouldn’t think this but I do. There is this guy whom I’ve know for about 4 years almost 5 years. We’ve dated before but now we’re just really good friends. The thing is, I’ve never felt good enough for him. Like he does the whole music thing and a lot of his friends are into that and do the same thing, I don’t. He has a lot of girls who are friends who are musicians and I’m not. I made a comment to him before we were talking about people in general and I made the comment sometimes I don’t feel good enough and he told me not to think that. But, I can’t help it, I do. Not to date him, but even to just be friends. It’s that bad. And I’m not ugly, he always called me beautiful. I guess it’s cause we’re different.

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (4 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 minutes after post)

it is kind’a silly(and pointless) since you’ll never be like anyone/everyone else, no one is the same. maybe, work on your self esteem a little? :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 12 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Don’t feel that way about yourself. Imagine what he sees in you! If you don’t want to be with him, then maybe it’s time you moved on or got your stuff together! I bet your a fun, beautiful person and you just feel down. But you shouldn’t feel that way! A relationship is a mutual thing, and he obviously wants to be with you. BUT boys grow tired of insecure girls…so go get a haircut, or a new outfit, or maybe take up a neat hobby, and get some shiny confidence to show ;)

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Never feel that way about yourself :) Guys like girls who are totally opposite from them (at least i do, but have some interest alike) He obviously saw something that you don’t see in yourself, especially if he went after you and not these other girls :)

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eunique offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (53 minutes after post)

how many people do you need to tell you not to waste your time or your life downplaying who you Are? you betta pick that self esteem up off the floor or from under your bed, dust it off and wear it outside Proudly! There are real issues in life and you need YOU to get thru and conquer whatever comes your way - what does low esteem get you? duh, get real, fake it till you believe it ~

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