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I met someone about a year and a half ago and instantly liked him, we talked/skyped/texted all the time.

Time went by and he started dating a girl (sort of) but then it ended shortly after. I really really liked him. Then once I had finally given up on any hope of ever dating him, I told him about some other guy I liked because he thought we should tell each other who we like as friends. Instantly after that he started talking to me a TON. and for Christmas he bought me a diamond heart shaped necklace, then we started dating. Long distance. 2,000 miles, long distance…
2 months and he ended it. Very poorly. I finally figured out that it’s because he couldn’t handle the distance. I was planning on visiting soon, but he couldn’t wait. Said the sparks were gone. But that we should both be single for a long time.
So I cried every day for a long time. Got drunk every night for 5 nights straights, rebounds, etc.
I had stopped talking to him. But one day I remembered how much fun we had. How good a friend he was, so I started talking to him again. When we started talking again, he started trying to set me up with my dream job over where he lives. Then he said that if I ended up moving there, then he wanted to take me on a date.
Not long after, (5 days ago), he didn’t talk to me for a couple days. When I finally got a hold of him, he asked where we stand as friends, I didn’t know how to answer, but said that once in a while I want to be dating him again but am trying to fight that feeling… Then he says ‘because I want to be completely honest with you all the time… Because I am going on a date tonight with a girl I met a little while ago… I didn’t see her coming, and there are tons of sparks.”
NOTE: He said he wanted to take me on a date, he also said we should both be single for a long time, AND he’s trying to get me a job over there.
Somebody please make some sense of this. I absolutely love this guy. I’m head over heels for him, but why am I being treated like this? He always says how much he values my friendship, and how I’m the best GF he ever had and etc. But what? I’m hurt, confused. Heck I’m asking for help online from people I don’t even know.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Forget it! Move on!
You’re in “love” with an illusion only — never met him in person.
Look out for a REAL one.

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (58 minutes after post)

your being trated like that coz your his play thing. your there when he has no one and when he does your not important. ive been in the position and its not nice. but you have to get off the computer and find someone in real life. who you can know.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (5 days after post)

I do ‘know’ him. It is very possible to get to know everything about a person without touching them. But maybe I’m just too optimistic :(

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (5 days after post)

sophia.morrison50 wrote:
It is very possible to get to know everything about a person without touching them.

No, not without MEETING in person — touching or not doesn’t matter.

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sophia.morrison50 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (5 days after post)

we always skyped and everything and have mutual friends.
but mayeb it is a different feeling in person.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (5 days after post)

sophia.morrison50 wrote:
we always skyped and everything and have mutual friends.
but mayeb it is a different feeling in person.

It is, it is! For sure.

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (5 days, 6 hours after post)

you cant possible ‘know’ him. he can tell you any old lie and you’ll believe it, coz theres no body language etc to know anything different.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Hey thankyou guys (and gals). I met someone who was right under my nose this whole time and I didn’t even see it. We are happy and in love :) I never thought I would find someone better than that guy, but I did!

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