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really? why/how in the world are you not getting over him when all you do is follow his every move via fb? wow, kind’a obsessive imo.

i’m not, i just see stuff on my news feed

but uh thanks for your help

Apparently, you’re still into him. Maybe you should get off the internet and hang out with your friends. With no internet, you can’t notice his online activity.

This is normal to find little things hurtful it helps not to look at stuff and for goodness sake dont even think about texting or messaging him! That would give your power away and you can end up crazy with that kind of action.

If he really is unbothered about your break up try to change your perspective. Try to think what a lucky escape that your relationship came to an end with some one who cares so little about you. You deserve someone who truly loves you and cares for you. You will not settle for less and if he cant offer it because he is probably just a boy pretending to be a man then you will wait for the man that can.

Pain is a good thing even though it does not feel like it now. It will make you more discerning in the future. Less keen to charge in and more interested in seeing someones character before you commit. You will feel more justified in making them prove some level of commmitment towards you before giving yourself away. Realize your part in the failure of this realationship and you will be free not to make the same mistake again and your pain will not be for nothing.

Use the energy it creates to better yourself, do exercise, eat well and talk about how you are feeling to your close friends (you mentioned you are keeping yourself distracted which is good!) You will then find yourself less concerned about what he is doing and more able to look to the future.

You are doing just great, all very normal from what you have posted so far!!

thanks!! i made a complete fool of myself with him, crying and begging for him to take me back. it hurts so bad. i wish i didn’t love him, i wish i could just be cold and not care about him, but i just can’t do it. i keep hoping he’ll come back to me, even though i know it isn’t realistic. i really miss him.