friends help: how do i let it go?

Siren

how do i let it go?

theres a girl at work that i really dislike. she just makes me feel sick. i hate everything about her from her trampy look, unstraightend messy hair, dragging feet, silly girly giggle, her childish voice, it all just drives me insane.

and i feel shes stole a friend from me, we used to talk all the time, go out and stuff, now my friend doesnt even talk to me and suddenly they are best friends.

im hating work coz of it. none of the girls like me anymore. my other friends have left so i only have my guy friends which is great but i dont want to wonder around the place feeling down coz they dont like me and are ******** about me. ive been through this before at school. they did exactly the same. i dont know what ive done.

i just need to let the anger and hurt go and ignore them. but i dont know how. any ideas?

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BigWilly! 54 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (34 minutes after post)

One thing about friends is that you’ve got to maintain the relationship, and react to changes appropriately, or they fade away. Basically, I don’t think that somebody can ’steal’ a friend, cuz you don’t ‘own’ them. People tend to gravitate towards other people and sometimes they maintain a relationship and sometimes not.
It might help to not look at a friendship as a constantly changing situation and not to expect and count on stability; brace yourself for disappointment if you do. Go your own way and accept friendship as it comes along, as well as gracefully allowing it to depart.

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Anonymous #
11 months ago (36 minutes after post)

I would just move on. Go out and make new girlfriends.

Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Big Willy! wrote:
One thing about friends is that you’ve got to maintain the relationship, and react to changes appropriately, or they fade away. Basically, I don’t think that somebody can ’steal’ a friend, cuz you don’t ‘own’ them. People tend to gravitate towards other people and sometimes they maintain a relationship and sometimes not.
It might help to not look at a friendship as a constantly changing situation and not to expect and count on stability; brace yourself for disappointment if you do. Go your own way and accept friendship as it comes along, as well as gracefully allowing it to depart.

well one min she was chatting away with me and the next day completly ignored. i think it might be to do with the fact im good friends with the new girls bf. and now they both like a ***** about me

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kittenbasket #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (45 minutes after post)

I am at a place called job corps. We are all 16 to 24 and live here and are not allowed to leave. I dated someone here for 5 months. He lied to my face and broke my heart. Now I’ve had to live with seeing that bast_rd around all the time. I even stopped going to meals for a while. He is ALWAYS very near by because the center isn’t very big. I never loved anyone like I loved him. However, it’s only been 2 weeks and I am already forgetting.

You have to forgive them. All of them, for what they’ve done. And you have to forgive this girl for being who she is. Forgivness isn’t something you do because you feel like it, it’s something you just decide. It won’t make the feelings go away over night, and you may have to continually forgive them, 70×7 and whatnot. Then, talk to these former friends and try to figure out why they are acting the way they are. Listen to every word and don’t get defensive. Good luck.

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BigWilly! 54 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (46 minutes after post)

Siren wrote:
well one min she was chatting away with me and the next day completly ignored. i think it might be to do with the fact im good friends with the new girls bf. and now they both like a ***** about me

Well, then just let it go and don;t react in a negative manner. That just gives more reason for dislike. By letting things slide offa you it leaves the door open for a later resumption of the friendship and the possibility of acquiring more.

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (50 minutes after post)

kittenbasket wrote:
I am at a place called job corps. We are all 16 to 24 and live here and are not allowed to leave. I dated someone here for 5 months. He lied to my face and broke my heart. Now I’ve had to live with seeing that bast_rd around all the time. I even stopped going to meals for a while. He is ALWAYS very near by because the center isn’t very big. I never loved anyone like I loved him. However, it’s only been 2 weeks and I am already forgetting.

You have to forgive them. All of them, for what they’ve done. And you have to forgive this girl for being who she is. Forgivness isn’t something you do because you feel like it, it’s something you just decide. It won’t make the feelings go away over night, and you may have to continually forgive them, 70×7 and whatnot. Then, talk to these former friends and try to figure out why they are acting the way they are. Listen to every word and don’t get defensive. Good luck.

good advice thanks. im not gonna talk to them tho. theyre selfabsorbed, selfish, and immature. i’ll have a new job soon enough. hopefully karma will keep them in that hell hole forever

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trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (57 minutes after post)

Maybe look for another job hun?

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (58 minutes after post)

trentlover20 wrote:
Maybe look for another job hun?

i am, joining the army :)

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trentlover20 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (59 minutes after post)

Siren wrote:

trentlover20 wrote:
Maybe look for another job hun?

i am, joining the army :)

Good for you :) get away from those idiots you deserve better

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BigWilly! 54 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

trentlover20 wrote:

Siren wrote:

trentlover20 wrote:
Maybe look for another job hun?

i am, joining the army :)

Good for you :) get away from those idiots you deserve better

Yeah, but idiots are everywhere and having to take orders from one (with no real recourse) might be a bit galling.

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

i get along with guys so much better. i just hate girls and their bitchy twofacedness.

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BigWilly! 54 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Siren wrote:
i get along with guys so much better. i just hate girls and their bitchy twofacedness.

Hey hey.. there’s hope for me yet!

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