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should i break up with my girlfriend?

basicly

she has a group of friends ( around 12 ) who she loves to bits,
she says if i cant go out with them like 4x 6 weeks we are over
me, i hate meeting people they annoy me. i have met them before but i dont understand why i have to go out with them when its her friends. it irritates me
i prefere to stay in and do what i / she wanted to do. anjd she has said if i cant “make the effort” we are over

surely that is a bit immature?
arnt people in relationships suppose to be with their own friends not force their partner to come out with them?

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (3 minutes after post)

well you should go ever so often, aybe not everytime. just talk to her and tell her your not comfortable socialising with them

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11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

You have to be a part of her life. Yours may be an inside type of life. But if she wants to do this, don’t you feel like you should sacrifice at least a little bit and go out with her and her friends? Small sacrifice.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

what i dont understand is that i have asked her for nothing and yes i may be a part of her life now but why does it have to mean i have to go out with her friends. tbh i dont know if i am trying to find an excuse to actually leave her or if it actually bugs me so much

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (31 minutes after post)

You have to decide whether being with her is worth being around her friends al the time. We can’t make the decision for you. You have to decide what is more valuable to you by yourself.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (4 hours, 14 minutes after post)

I don’t think you should HAVE to be with her friends all the time. As long as you are making her feel special, in fact both of you making each other special then there should be no problems.
As long as you and her friends can get along then there should be no problem. No extra effort has to be made.

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