friends help: I’m becoming a snob…but I’m not sure I actually care… - Help.com

I agree with you completely. I wouldn’t classify you as a snob because you don’t riticule those less fortunate than you and you think of yourself as better for it because in a moral aspect, that is true. I also don’t blame you for thinking about finding new friends. As we change, so do the ones we associate ourselves with. I say, more power to you for rising above as an individual and not becoming a part of the sheeple.

There is nothing wrong with being a snob if a snob is what you’d call someone who is trying to be a better person. Maybe it is time to surround yourself with more understanding people :)

You’re the kind of snob I like!

To rise above others is to be a snob.
To understand what is right for oneself is not. There is a difference here.

People in your life can teach you many things. When time is right, many friendships will end. There is nothing wrong with this. If you don´t adapt to change then you don´t grow. If a plant stops to grow guess what happens to it…

Realize who you are and what you believe in. Explore and grow in all the directions that feel right. Walk away from the things you don´t like.

There is value in all beliefs. Don´t pay too much attention to what feels right or wrong. Learn from everything and lead by example. This way you are the creator in your life rather than falling to a pattern of trying to be someone you´re not.

A snob? I fail to see how refusing to jump on their little bandwagon of making innocent people an object of ridicule renders you a snob. Your so-called friends need to grow up and stop engaging in foolish behavior that is fitting for middle schoolers. Kudos to you for being a “good” person and caring about the feelings of others when you could’ve taken the path of least resistance and indulged your friends’ expectations.

I have no problem with language. Depending on who I’m with I’ll talk at different levels. But its attitude that you have to watch out for. And the kind of attitude these people exhibit is….poor. I would say go ahead and be a snob if that is who you are.

If not laughing at homeless people is being a snob, then be a snob.

But if its just that you developed a new vernacular and feel above a few friends who are a little less educated, then that is the kind of snobbery I can’t respect.

Whatever the case may be you have no responsibility to be like these friends or be liked by them. Choose your own path, and choose your own friends. If you don’t like these guys make new friends.

“Evil prevails when good people do nothing about it.”

I’m glad you are doing something about it.

I’d rather be an outcast than a part of such cruelty, personally. Kudos to you indeed.

It’s not true happiness, really, which might be why there’s anger. Also, instability in their lives, fear, depression, etc.

You are not becoming a SNOB what so ever! You are growing and maturing your becoming a beautiful confident person who is learning to speak up and have opionions that you are willing to speak about! What these people did to the homeless guy I find disgracing and very childess and rude. If you were to think this was funny I would not want to read your posts anymore and would have said something.

Your attitude and thoughts towards these friends are not snobbish! These friends are in a place you use to be in but have chossen to not be like them anymore….and not that you ever were. You are developing people skills and becoming more confident with who you are and making better choices for yourself.

You don’t have to be around these friends anymore and laugh at the things they do because thats not who you really are inside. You never were like them…..

Be an example to them of how people can change and share when you are around them more of how you see them and what they are doing and the way they are acting isn’t so funny anymore. Or impressive….you can move on with out turning you back on them or feel like you are being snobbish by just being honest and telling them how all this makes you feel and see them.

Just as you are relizing this give them room to do so also. You might be suprised that they are feeling the same way to and just went along with it to fit in.

I’m proud of you and it is wonderful to hear you say these things…..I use to be quite to and more of a wall flower I had so much to say just didn’t know how or had the courage. When I came out of shell in school I lost allot of friends I use to hang out with because I started to speak up and disagree or not go along with how they were in their group and to others.

I never regreted it! Keep growing and learning about who you really are inside and let that person come out…..you will shine and feel so much better inside. You are the one that wants to wake in the morning and look in the mirrow and like what you see………..

Lots of Smiles and Kooodles for you Snow White:)

If you’re a snob then we’re all snobs :) someone rummage up the cigars and I’ll find the sherry!

No, you are not becoming snobby. You are becoming a mature and good person and it’s a development worth being extremely happy about.
Having a moral compass is a GOOD thing. Your friends seem to have misplaced theirs, but they’ll find it eventually and then they’ll realise you had the right idea all along. Unless, y’know.. they sit on it and break it.

Calling someone a “snob” is belittling them. So, to call yourself a “snob” is to put yourself down, to act like you are superior than yourself. That’s not possible, therefore you’re not a snob.
Sorry to agree with all the people who disagree with you, but that’s the logic I see.

They probably enjoyed your friendship. However, it might be necessary to leave them behind. You can tell them you care about them and reassure them not to get hurt by it, while continuing to make your own path. If they want to continue feeling hurt when you’ve been kind to them through this process, that’s only their fault. Some people take offense for no reason, I’m afraid. As long as you’ve been reasonable and kind enough, they have no legitimate complaints.

Explain to them that you are not okay with making fun of people. Maybe dont pick a bone about the ‘bro’ thing but just be honest with them. That way if they still choose to call you a snob (which could be quite isolating in a group, I’d imagine) and be cruel to people in front of you then it’s not you leaving them behind, it’s them refusing to accept you and respect you as a person. But dont feel bad about it either way - you’re seeing these people in a new light and it’s not a good one. That’s okay! No need to cut them out of your life instantly but dont feel badly if they drift out naturally.