Could it be that I’m looking at this all wrong?
I’ve always viewed it as me being the victim. Her actions towards me were all supposed retaliations to something that I wasn’t actually doing (rumors, liars, etc. to keep it short).
She tried to break the ice recently, and begin talking again. Once upon a time we were very close, and very important to the other. However she took a joke I made wrong, thought I was trying to attack her personally, and pulled back (again).
I didn’t do much because I always figured that she’s the one instigating everything so if anything would be “fixed” it would have to be on her end. However, after a brief incident, I started to look at things differently. Seeing it as her believing she really is retaliating to some harmful action I’m instigating towards her. If that’s the case, then she may very well feel that every time she drops her guard to me, I take a shot.
Could this be it? This whole time I’ve been so confused and unable to pinpoint her feelings towards me, when it could really be as simple as her feeling like a victim towards someone she felt she could trust.
If this is the case, how can I handle this? She won’t even look at me anymore, and I’m afraid that saying sorry might just come across as condescending.
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