friends help: I don’t make connections with people.

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I don’t make connections with people.

I was always a bit awkward but I also always had friends. Then I got into an abusive relationship and the guy made me cut ties with everyone I knew. Now two years on I’m still not really able to connect to people anymore. It’s like I’ve forgotten how and now relationships scare me a bit…
I want to be likeable and to make friends but I think I’m missing some obvous social truth about people that everyone else knows. Or maybe I’ve just always been a bit weird and unlikeable and this just made things worse. How do I find this stuff out? How do I try change into a likeable person? What can I actually do?

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Anonymous #
11 months ago (26 minutes after post)

start with being happy making new aquaintences.
Say hi to the teller.
Friends are gifts from God and there needs to be a “click” or chemical response.
You can’t click with someone unless you experience a little bit of them and they experience you.
So send out little bits of yourself.
As always; patience.

Are you still with that guy?
Either yes or no…. that period will have left you a bit shy.

micheal.janssens 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Likeable people are usually most noted by their ability to like other people. If you like me, I’ll most likely like you back. If you’re intimidated by me or scared of me, then I’ll feel your negative energy and it will repel me.

So: go like some people. Most of them will like you back.

(psst… that means smile at them).

:D

Good luck.

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