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are you 15 or are you 18?

I’m 15

why (do you think) he wants to spend time with you?

an intellectual friend? who has had many of the same experiences that he has had and will talk philosophically with him

Or is he very immature. has had no experiences. not in college. no job. and you are the only person that (when he spends time with you) doesnt make him feel like a loser

Or you have access to something that he could use (or wants)

Or he likes young girls

no no you say… he just likes me.. we get along…. So it is the first option?

You have to know that you’re still on age of consent, and that HE will get in big troubles if he will come too close to you (I think you know what I mean).

I’m not too sure,
He’s not immature, but I think he might be a bit lonely.
He recently lost his job and never went to university so it’s difficult for him to find one.
I guess he could like me to talk to, we are into the same things and he likes discussing books and films.
But really, what guy just wants a girl to talk to?… so i’m unsure

You make him feel unjudged… safe.
But he is not the man for you.
You don’t need to develop this relationship.

If you have a small gut feeling he wants a relationship then it is better to just not even chance it. It’s better to be safe than sorry. If for some reason you do decide to go on a walk with him, bring a (male) friend with you and tell your parents who you are with or where you are going. Make sure you have a cell phone or your friend does. It’s better to be safe than sorry though.

okay thanks for the advice

You should be very careful in this situation. He’s much older, not necessarily because of the years, but because you are probably a freshman or sophomore in highschool and he has been out of high school for two years and probably has a lot of experience. He may even have a thing for younger girls, which is pretty creepy.

If you like him, tell him that it seems inappropriate to even be friends (or good friends) because you are still in high school, so you think you should talk to each other once you graduate or turn 18.
If you don’t, just tell him it seems inappropriate, or that your parents don’t want you hanging out with an older guy and if he pushes, you can’t risk sneaking around.

Sounds like a creep.

Definitely weird.

so i shouldn’t hang out with him at all? not even in like public places? :P

if you do hang out with him, you should definitely do it in a public place. Don’t go anywhere alone with him, it’s a pretty sketchy situation.

Strange! If you want to get to know the leaders, get to know the woman. Going to a movie with this guy alone seems like a date. That is not something he should be doing.