Thought help: Im 16, maybe pregnant, and i need help if you can! - Help.com

Take a pregnancy test, and if you are pregnant and worst comes to worse you might have to bite the bullet and have an abortion you’re 16 you’re too young to look after a child, by the sounds of it this is an unwanted pregnancy which means you’re not adult enough to make adult decisions like looking after a baby full time (no offence intended) and you’re not ready do you really think you can spend all your time looking after a screaming baby? no freedom, no spare time, no sleep, post natal depression? it’s not as glamorous as it sounds.

trentlover20 wrote:
Take a pregnancy test, and if you are pregnant and worst comes to worse you might have to bite the bullet and have an abortion you’re 16 you’re too young to look after a child, by the sounds of it this is an unwanted pregnancy which means you’re not adult enough to make adult decisions like looking after a baby full time (no offence intended) and you’re not ready do you really think you can spend all your time looking after a screaming baby? no freedom, no spare time, no sleep, post natal depression? it’s not as glamorous as it sounds.

Truth. YOu’d go from having a life to having no friends immedietly. The father if he claimed the child would likely go to prison and would be dishonorably discharged from the military. If he didn’t claim to be the father you’d be paying for all the costs for yourself. Having a child runs typically about $20,000 from beginning to end. Good luck.

Your friends plan seems pretty good. Good luck with it.

You said your worried if you tell your mom she will make you go live with your dad…so i got that.

A friend in Missouri: Sounds like an option if the above happens.

As for the guy getting in trouble this is the sticky part: First question: Do you think your parents would pursue charges against him? This is the part that needs to be seriously considered on how you handle this….not sure how it works if you go to say Planned Parent Hood where you can get testing free or a small fee to confirm pregnacy. Then what is planned parent hoods disclosure for a client who is 16 and pregnant by a 20 year old are they mandated to report it????Big Question before you tell them anything.

It might be better to tell them a fib=lie what ever you want to call it….that you don’t know the guy you were out with friends and hooked up with a cute guy got a little tipsy had sex and now pregnant. You would have to get a straight story and think about it……and stick to it with everyone including your parents and friends….it sounds bad but it would keep him out of the picture.

Then if your mom throws a fit and wants to send you to your dads and this is not a healthy place you want to be at then consider Missouri….

At 16 I belive you can go to the courts and become “imancipated” which would take you out of your parents responsibilty and you would be on your own.

Do your parents know this guy? Do they like him? Do you think they would force charges on him???? It would be best if you could tell them the truth and deal with that if they won’t freak out on this guy…

Tomorrow I will research some of the above laws on the things I mentione in your State.

As for keeping the baby that is a big step and I am proud of you for your decision and so sorry there are all these other complications your dealing with on top of this. Being 16 and having a baby is not the end of the world what so ever. It’s just not the perfect age but then again what is. You sound like you would an amzing loving mother. I have had so many of my friends whom their 16 year old daughter got pregnant and they kept it and accepted the situation and their daughter having a baby as a blessing.

I would feel so much better if I knew your mom at least would be their for you and support your decision and not alinate or do anything against the father.

I had an abortion when I was 16 and pregnant by my bf of 2 years who was 24….I never considered abortion and was going to keep the baby I went to planned parent hood thinking they would have the anserw and help I needed. Little did I know they are all for abortion and that is the direction of help they give you…..then my bf did not want me to have it and demanded I abort. I was scared to tell my parents and felt i had no where to turn. i was scared and hurt and felt forced to abort the baby and sadle enough I did and have had to live with it…..I did get over it and I guess the only thing I regret was I did it not by choice but manipulation. I’m not against abortion but strongly feel a young girl should be given the option with support in both directions.

Let me know when you find out if you are and maybe there is more I can help you with…I surely can get you cloths and things you will need for the baby….and help in other was as well.

Also I will see if there is a home there were you are that takes in young girls who are pregnant and keeping the baby.

One of my best friends when I was 16 and she was also had a baby….her parents made her move out and she did she got on welfare for awhile and went to school graduated and ended up with a legal degree it was hard but she did it and made a life for her and her child…There is alot of help out there you can get to better your life with education and provisions for you and the baby.

First step find out if your pregnant and let me know……you will get through this and will be here to take it step by step if you like.

Lotsa Love to You!

I feel really horrible if you are pregnant. You’re sooo young.

The truth is, depending on your mom, she can press charges against the 20 year old. Does your mom know your dad is abusive? You need to talk to her if that’s the case.

If the two of you want to get married, you most likely will need consent. I’m not sure what the state law is, but he should look it up. If you can get hitched without consent, it’ll be easy for you now, but harder later. You’re going to want your mom around. You’re going to want to get the pain out the way and go forward from there.

So my advice to you, take a pregnancy test. If you’re not pregnant, thank your lucky stars and stop having sex without protection and birth control. You’re too young!

If you are, talk to your friend. Does he want to get married. If so, he needs to propose, he needs to ask your mother’s permission and if she says no, then you need to talk to your mom and tell her that you’re pregnant and that you want to keep the baby and marry your friend. It’ll be a lot easier to have your mom on your side, but if she’s not, she’ll come around eventually. It’s a lot to take in.

You need to tell her about your dad being abusive regardless of what happens. She should never send you to live in a bad situation.

“How you get pregnant”:
http://www.positive.org/JustSayYes/pr…

“Could I be pregnant?”:
http://www.positive.org/Home/faq/preg…

“25 Signs of Pregnancy and Pregnancy Symptoms”:
http://pregnancy.about.com/od/signssy…

You can buy a pregnancy test at any drugstore, but take care of the timing:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnanc…
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnanc…

How pregnancy test and ovulation predictor test work — and many other information, with FAQ:
http://www.peeonastick.com/

And all about the Morning-after pill:
· http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/morn…
· http://www.morningafterpill.org/how-d…
· http://www.plannedparenthood.org/heal…

✖ All kind of birth control methods · What works and what doesn’t: ✖
· http://www.birth-control-comparison.info
· http://www.itsyoursexlife.com/gyt/pro…

YIKES! And BIG YIKES that he is in the military with youer dad….oooppps!

Gosh girl I don’t know what to say about this one.

I love your attitude thou about keeping the baby and how you feel towards being a mother. You relize what you are doing and because of that you are making the right decision about keeping it! Now find out………..good luck on the bus today and look forward to your next post.