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Me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up recently.

I loved him so much. It all changed when he met this guy who is his Pastor. He started spending the night with him and spending more time with him than me. The pastor is 40 my ex is 17. I’m 16 and I got weirded out so I broke up with him. Then things changed and we got back together than all of a sudden he left me. He became obssessed with god and his Pastor. He treats me like I am the devil. He says he has no respect for me and I hate God. I never said I hate god.. I don’t believe in religion but I believe in god. He has destroyed me, I haven’t talked to him all summer he ignores me and goes to camp and spends everyday with his Pastor. He blames me for everything in his life and made me think I was the reason he was going to kill himself. But I did nothing. His dad left his family hurts him I was a good girlfriend but he blames me for everything. I made him happy but now he hates me. How do I move on? How can I forget him? He meant everything to me. He was my first love. What do I do?

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helpme202 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 minute after post)

this is hard to hear and you might not want to hear it but to “move on” takes time, just get out there and meet new people

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Do you hear that?
It sounds like it’s time to move on.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (47 minutes after post)

yeah very true

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (2 hours, 5 minutes after post)

he’s confuse imo, has family/issues in general and doesn’t seem to know how to handle them it seems. you’re not to blame. wish him good luck in the future and be glad you don’t have to deal w/ this mess.

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11 months ago (15 hours, 22 minutes after post)

its hard i know, im still dealing with a long term breakup after he left me for reasons i dont even know, i cant give you an answer as to how it will take to move on, im still in that process, and it will hurt for a long time, just know that it was not your fault and if he wont talk to you dont waste your time on him, might sound cheesey, but you deserve better than that

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