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Huge mess and I feel very guilty (this might be long and a bit confusing, sorry)
My friends don’t like my boyfriend, because they know he’s not been exactly “boyfriend of the year” to me… ever. My boyfriend and I have had many problems with trust, jealousy, and even control issues from his part, he’s also a bit vindictive, and I’m not good at bottling my emotions son when he has messed up and I need support, I’ve gone to my friends. Thus, they dislike him, and even more so, because he’s made clear he doesn’t like them back.
One of my friends, a guy, is seeing (or was) one of his friends, a girl. The thing is, some time ago my boyfriend tried to make me jealous by being very close to this girl, showing a lot of interest, and she’s a very friendly person so she also became very close and “interested” in my boyfriend. This made me feel like second best, insecure, etc. The other day my guy friend started telling me about her and I mentioned what my boyfriend had done.
My friend got really upset that my boyfriend would do that to me, so the next day, he started telling bad things about my boyfriend to one of the other girl’s friends. The girl’s friend told her, and then she told my boyfriend what my guy friend had said. My boyfriend and I got into a big argument, but now it’s settled.
I talked to my guy friend, however, and he told me that he had spoken to the girl he was seeing (my boyfriend’s friend) and that they kinda had settled things, so it was all good, that it had been a misunderstanding. But then he told me that she told him he doesn’t wanna see him again. I don’t know her, but I feel really bad about all this I kinda feel it was my fault.
My friend asked me not to do anything, not to tell anything to my boyfriend or the other girl. He’s not mad at me at all, but still I feel bad, because I guess she doesn’t wanna see him again because of this. I wish there was something I could do…
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