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My husband is gay/bi, but won’t admit it.
For years, even before we were married, I found clues that he was possibly gay. We exchanged email passwords, and one day (at his request) I checked his account and noticed he had a message from Craigslist from a guy saying he couldn’t wait to meet up and was having to “get off” just thinking about it. I confronted him, but he swore that it was a guy he knew for real and was messing with him. I didn’t believe it, but didn’t say anything. There was a ton more encounters like this, one even being where he gave his address out to a guy, then quickly replied back that he wasn’t interested when I confronted him. That’s been about 2 years ago. Since then, we’ve gotten married. We’re young (I’m 21 while he’s 19) but it felt right. I had pushed back all the past, and tried to believe it was all fake. It’s only gotten worse. Now, I’m finding google searches of gay porn sites and information on gay sex positions and even some stuff like how to have sex with animals. I’m at my breaking point. He has an excuse for everything, and everytime I confront him he just denies it all. If he would just admit it to me, maybe we could do the right thing and end this if he isn’t in love with me. But he just won’t, and just gets mad over it. What do I do???
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