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This guy I’m with always wants me to give him more attention than I want to give.

He calls me few times a day but I start to find it too much so I told him yesterday please cut down because it starts to get overwhelming.
We also talk on skpye every evening and if i distract myself from him he gets bothered.
anyway, he told me he would cut down on the calling, but he hasnt, and told me he wants to ‘hear my voice’, and he feels rejected if I don’t talk to him.

I really want the relationship to work with this guy, what he demands of me makes me feel paralysed. he gets upset that I dont say I love him anymore. I do but i dont like being forced to say things,

I think hes a good guy and I know he would be willing to do what he can to make the relationship work, hes 22 and im the first partner he’s ever been with. Its just i find it hard to say how ifeel when he so easily feels rejected. also bearing that in mind it makes me worry about telling him what i want. im willing to compromise just need things to work both ways :(

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (38 minutes after post)

try talking to him about it again…it sounds like your being reasonable, he’s just smothering you. maybe perhaps taking a break will cool him off?

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Sometimes people just want to have it their way and thats all they can relate to. Hopefully thats not the case.

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11 months ago (2 hours, 59 minutes after post)

taking a break would make him panic and worry id be rejecting him.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (4 hours, 12 minutes after post)

If hes so fragile and not savvy emotionaly that can be a bit of a hardship but he might be worth it. A lot of people are like that.

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