life help: Hey… so me and this boy have been talking for awhile now. - Help.com

Unfortunately, in situations like these, although you want to believe the boy and not your mom, your mom has no reason to lie to you or be unreasonable, but the boy absolutely does (to eventually get something else from you, etc.). You are still SO young, and your mother is responsible for you and wants to keep you safe and make sure you don’t get hurt.

Ultimately it is your choice whether you keep talking to him, but you should take the time to really get to know him before you disregard your mom’s concerns. How did you two meet? Do you have other friends who know him and trust him?

And finally — a guy who has already had sex has the expectation that sex will be part of a romantic relationship. This is not necessarily a reflection on him in a bad way, it’s simply natural. However, if you are so young, and still a virgin, and are sure you are not ready for that kind of a relationship, then it will be pretty much impossible to have a romantic relationship with this guy that does not include (or eventually lead to) sex. I’m sure he means well and respects you, but he is also a 15 year old boy with out of control hormones and some experience.

I would be very careful, continue only talking on the phone, or if you do hang out, hang out in public places with other people during the day, until you know him well enough to trust him (she trusts YOU, but has no reason to trust him yet). Ultimately, your mom is only going to be able to trust him if she has met him and has strong evidence that his intentions are pure. If you can get him to meet your mom and discuss things with her (which would speak volumes to his maturity level and intention), you may be able to start spending time with him. However, if he runs away at the mere thought, it will be clear what he wanted, and therefore no great loss.

Don’t stress Lynn, I went through something similar when I was 17. To be honest, I’m glad I listened to my mother’s concerns. I know I can trust my mom even though it was very painful at the time to accept. I had fallen in love. He was very sweet, but had bad habits. I was heart broken for a year. I fell in love at 23, lost my virginity and it has been one of the best moments in my life. I’m so glad I did’t rush things and took more time then the norm to have found someone who truly loved me. Whereas the majority of my friends have had horrible first times! I am 28 years old now, living my dream in Paris. The boy in question works on a packaging line in a meat factory. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Be a strong girl and focus on your dreams. Best wishes

hey, i know what u mean but as gay as it sounds your mother just looking after you :P does your mother know about past boyfriends? because she might think that this boy be your first boyfriend and that maybe he could tell you “this is what couple do” but just tell your mother your giving him a chance and that your being careful :)
hope i helped a bit

Anonymous wrote:
Unfortunately, in situations like these, although you want to believe the boy and not your mom, your mom has no reason to lie to you or be unreasonable, but the boy absolutely does (to eventually get something else from you, etc.). You are still SO young, and your mother is responsible for you and wants to keep you safe and make sure you don’t get hurt.

Ultimately it is your choice whether you keep talking to him, but you should take the time to really get to know him before you disregard your mom’s concerns. How did you two meet? Do you have other friends who know him and trust him?

And finally — a guy who has already had sex has the expectation that sex will be part of a romantic relationship. This is not necessarily a reflection on him in a bad way, it’s simply natural. However, if you are so young, and still a virgin, and are sure you are not ready for that kind of a relationship, then it will be pretty much impossible to have a romantic relationship with this guy that does not include (or eventually lead to) sex. I’m sure he means well and respects you, but he is also a 15 year old boy with out of control hormones and some experience.

I would be very careful, continue only talking on the phone, or if you do hang out, hang out in public places with other people during the day, until you know him well enough to trust him (she trusts YOU, but has no reason to trust him yet). Ultimately, your mom is only going to be able to trust him if she has met him and has strong evidence that his intentions are pure. If you can get him to meet your mom and discuss things with her (which would speak volumes to his maturity level and intention), you may be able to start spending time with him. However, if he runs away at the mere thought, it will be clear what he wanted, and therefore no great loss.

^^^ this. this answer is amazing.