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I’m so scared

I’m pretty shy, but i’ve been trying lately to become more social, i’ve been talking and hanging out with certain people more and it seems to be going well.

However, one of these friends has invited me out to dinner and drinks with a bunch of his mates tomorrow and i’m terrified.

I’ve never done anything like this before, most nights have been spent alone in my room for as long as i’ve lived, and i’m terrified of having to deal with various other people and the chance of me screwing it all up or freaking out.

I want to go, i want to do this stuff and be normal, hopefully be happy, but i’m just so scared of actually doing it.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

“How to Lose Shyness and Social Anxiety - 3 Main Tips to a Better Social Life”:
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“How To Lose Your Shyness Step By Step”:
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“How To Overcome Shyness When Meeting People”:
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“How to Become Sociable”:
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“How to Become More Social”:
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Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

I’ve never done anything like this before, most nights have been spent alone in my room for as long as i’ve lived, and i’m terrified of having to deal with various other people and the chance of me screwing it all up or freaking out.
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Tell him that. Then go, and take things one minute at a time.

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Help me with: Thanks, everyone, for the help yesterday!
RickRaven offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (11 hours, 52 minutes after post)

You can always be open and honest. You can just jump in and tell the crowd half jokingly “ok i am a social freak and trying to be more social, so don’t be surprised if start to cry in the middle of the night”. or something like that. you do not need to act. you do not need to be loved by everybody, be as you are, and do not think about what others are thinking about you. and if you think you did something wrong you can always apologize.

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10 months, 4 weeks ago (13 hours, 47 minutes after post)

I told him and he was cool with it, said he’d watch out for me, i feel so much better about it now.

I may only have a few real friends, but they are really the greatest friends i could ever ask for…

A few more hours to go now, thanks for the advice all.

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RickRaven offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (13 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Glad to hear. Everything will be allright. Just trust yourself.

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