Is 5 minutes of cuddling in the morning too much to ask for?
My partner and I have been dating for a year and a half-now. We are both in early-mid 20s and university students.
I love her to heart and feel that we’re compatible on so many levels. I’m constantly bending over backwards for her and find pleasure in making her happy. Unfortunately, I don’t feel that she feels that way too.
She is a very go-go-go person, and this morning I asked her to spend 5 minutes in bed with me cuddling. Apparently that was too much for her because “she wanted to get her day started”. I told her I was disappointed, and the morning went on.
I’ll add that this morning I didn’t have to wake up early and come to my university, but I saw no harm in driving her up so that she could study all day (at 8AM).
As I was thinking on the ride here, and as she was busy texting next to me and worrying about her friends and plans for the weekend, I thought to myself that she seems to be a very self-centred person, where everything has to go her way or the highway. Thinking this, I figured that I would give her as much in return as she gave me. So, I didn’t carry her bag for her and I didn’t open her door for her. I understand this is counterproductive, but I wanted to put myself in what I perceived to be her shoes, and it wasn’t fun. She called me out on it, and said I wasn’t being fair.
I never used to wake up early in the morning to head to school. I’ve made numerous changes in my life to compliment her lifestyle, some minuscule and some grande. But I don’t feel as though she has made many for me. I don’t feel that a sacrifice of 5 minutes in the morning for cuddles is asking too much, and considering how much I do for her I am starting to feel under-appreciated.
I can’t keep giving and not receiving for much longer. It’s not balanced, it’s not healthy, and it’s not fair to me.
What do you think? Am I overreacting or do I have a point?
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