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So I need help with this situation.
I have recently been having a really stressful time at college but am extremely cautious to not let that come into our relationship. A couple of days ago, my boyfriend called me, horribly upset because one of his classmates completely ignored him whilst he was in conversation with him and then his classmates went off to some pub without even inviting him. He was so upset and he spoke to me for an hour. It ended with my telling him it was all right, he always had me to call and I would always listen to him, he didn’t need to worry about people who didn’t give him any time.
Yesterday, when they gave him time of day, he jumped at the opportunity and took off with them for the whole day. He got back only at 11 at night and when he called he sounded tired, so I told him it was fine and he could go to bed. He asked what I was going to do and I said I would probably call and friend and talk to them because I was stressed out about my hand in tomorrow. He then told me he would rather I talked to him. I said again, that he was tired and I understood. At his insistence, I stayed on the phone with him, and began to talk about my day. About ten minutes into the conversation, he started watching a youtube video and didn’t even bother to answer my questions. At this point I got upset and said it wasn’t fair to do that when he himself had complained about it a couple of days ago.
He told me, and these were his exact words, “Why do you feel like you have to compete with everybody in my life? You even said I didn’t need my classmates because I had you. You want to be the only one in my life. You even ask me when I start talking to other people when I’m on the phone with you if I’m talking to someone else and if I’m busy.”
I am shocked, more for the fact that I am the one who always asks him to make new friends, to call his old friends, to call his mother, who even says when he calls me in the middle of the day that he is with people and if he is busy, I could always call him later when he is alone. His best friends are all girls who he has had some kind of relationship with or the other and I am secure enough to not even mind that.
I am horrified that this is what he thinks when HE called ME to complain about his classmates and I told him that he had me and I would ALWAYS make time for him no matter what.
I don’t know if I want to be with him anymore if that is what he thinks of me. :(
Am I completely over reacting?
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