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Been with my bf for a year now and we’ve been living together for a few months. This is the longest I’ve been with anyone for quite a few years, since being single.
Everything was going perfectly, and I’ve been so happy. He kept saying how happy he was and recently, all he’s talked about is how he wants to get married and settle down with me, and how he wants to get engaged and how I should look at rings and let him know what I like.
So I got really excited. Anyway we had a serious convo the other day and he dropped in how it wouldn’t financially be sound for us to get engaged until about 2 years when we’ve finally saved enough for our first house together. I felt really gutted…like the wind had been knocked out of my sails. If it hadn’t been for how he kept saying all the time how he wanted to marry me etc, I wouldn’t have minded but I felt really upset that he was putting it all down to finances.
Anyway we had a huge argument, and he turned around and said that he was actually planning on a surprise proposal on my birthday, but that I’d ruined everything now. He also said he didn’t want to be backed into a corner and forced to propose to me…
That was almost two weeks ago and now…ever since, I feel like he’s been treating me different. I’ve tried to talk to him but he says everythings fine, but I don’t feel like it is. I feel like something has changed. He says it hasn’t….but I don’t know what to do now.
I really love him, and I value our relationship but it’s hard to describe…but I feel differently to how I did a few weeks ago. I feel like…things have changed. Maybe it’s just me but I really don’t know what to do now….
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