boyfriend help: Im in need of serious advice. - Help.com

WALK AWAY, walk away fast, stay away
you’re making yourself better for you and your child
Pack up what you can.Don’t look back,
Please trust me, been there, done that
got the pictures to prove it

i just want you to step back for a while and think, there’s a child involve here - your child. just think of a moment what kind of live would he/she have to endure growing up in an unstable situation?

your child needs a mother and it’s your duty to protect and care for him, and become a role-model for him/her. you don’t want your child to live a life where he/she sees his/her mother getting beat up buy guy and other crap that he/she don’t need to deal with as a child do you?

just think for a moment, i beg of you…

You sound like an amazing woman. Marry me! Just kidding about the marriage thing. It sounds to me that he does not appreciate what he has or is too afraid to say he wants to move on. The real warning sign is that he hits you. No real man EVER hits a woman. You would do best to end it with him. He will need some serious anger management and additional counseling to overcome his issues.

I really do want the best for him, he is the best behaved little boy ever. He has never seen any of these things happen, but it still worries me. Which is why i cant go back there. I tried so hard with all of my ex’s lovely family aswel, but now he says they hate me. Im not gonna lie, i hate the thought of that!! Dont worry my little man wont be going anywhere near him again. Im more scared for myself, my ex came round tonight so we could discuss what furniture he wants and what furniture im taking to the new house, i offered him it all and he threatens to smash cups in my face. But then he’s sorry and all is forgiven. Evil man!!

paycheck i deffinately agree with you, were going to get married lol. Seriously though i tried to get him to go to anger managment, he wont go. Im moving house so i wont be staying with him anymore it is over, but its hard, ive lived my life for him and my little boy for the past four years. I still will be trying hard to get everything done regardless of if he’s there or not, im trying to let him not bring me down, but its hard.

Stay focused and believe in what you are doing is best for you and your son. You are way too young to be strapped with his burden and it sounds like he could care less. The abusive behavior followed by apologies and promises of better future behavior are classic textbook chronic abuser behaviors. Best wishes and a big cyber hug!

Is he paying all the bills? Why are you staying with him if not for money?

He has a full time well pay’d job, however i do have plenty of my own income and pay for the majority of the bills, and rent. He has baugh the majority of the household items, he’s moved back with his mam and dad and when i move next week he’s threatening to take all of the furniture away. But i kept a roof over his head. Very frustrating situation. Im not going to be staying with him, im finding it very difficult to let him go though.

You will be glad you let him go. It is hard at first, just like quitting a crappy job, but soon enough you realize you made the right decision.

ahhhh ha ha ha i love it. Im going to think of him as a crappy job lol.

**** I’m good…

I do wish under certain circumstances homicide was not only legal but necessary.

Do you know what, that comment was a little ‘hmmmm how do i reply’ but you have made me feel like not all men are like him. Thank you.

southern_comfort, IP wrote:
I do wish under certain circumstances homicide was not only legal but necessary.

right on!! & wow do i have a list

Anonymous wrote:
Do you know what, that comment was a little ‘hmmmm how do i reply’ but you have made me feel like not all men are like him. Thank you.

that comment was like the test question
“Do you still beat your dog” Yes or No