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I need advice.

I’m a newly wed to a man who doesn’t contribute ANYTHING financially. I make a very good living and he works as a waiter. We had a financial agreement as to what his contribution would be before we got married. He has never once met that obligation. I pay for EVERYTHING… His car, his phone, his insurance, our home bills, etc. I asked him to get a better job or to get a second job and he bucked. His response was “but I would have to work everyday,” “it’s a lot of work,” and” but we couldn’t go on trips.” I’m sick of being his mommy. His response made me ill. I work anywhere from 40-100 hours a week, and he MIGHT pull 30 hours a week. We have a prenuptial agreement, so that what I came into the marriage with (two houses), would be mine in the event of divorce. I’ve asked him to make a counseling appointment, which he hasn’t done. Should I leave? I do love him, but I know that love doesnt make a marriage last a lifetime… Need outside advice

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 39 minutes after post)

As you know already, to marry him would be in the economical view VERY risky for you.
Theoretically (by law) his and yours contribution (made by wage) to the marriage must be 100% of each of you — this is the “common/mutual achievement”.

Below the line: In your position I would not marry him. Huge problems can be foreseen.

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