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I don’t really know what to do with life anymore.

I feel like life is just too hard.. I feel like my dreams will always just be dreams. I don’t mean to sound cheesy.. But I don’t have confidence in anything I do. I have a lot of problems.. My life just isn’t easy. I always compare myself to my older sister.. Which I know I shouldn’t do, but I admire how happy she is.. How she can just laugh and smile. How she can be herself.. And I’m just the awkward little sis who was always a trouble maker and always will be. I have a problem with drinking, when I drink I think I’m just like my sister, happy. I make friends easily when I’m drunk. But I also make lots of mistakes. I just got a DUI.. I feel like I’m never going to learn. I try so hard to make good choices, but once I slip and make a mistake it’s disasterous to me. Funny thing is I actually believe in myself.. I know I can do it. But sometimes it feels too hard..

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

No one can make best choices all the time. Neither your older sister. Failure is guide to success. Do you really think that your older sister is happy just because she always do the right thing? no, she just moves on when she fails. And she doesn’t try to be like someone else, she is just she is. But you on the other hand, try to be like your sister.

Just stop criticizing and judging yourself. I am sure your sister also have lots of problems but she does not stick to them.

Alcohol makes you relax, so you stop judging and criticizing yourself, that is why you feel more confident when you drink. But it is just an illusion and it just makes things worse on the long term.

Just try to find what make you feel “lacking” about yourself. Try to find your weaknesses and face with them.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (4 hours, 18 minutes after post)

When the going gets tough,the tough gets going.Tough time never last but tough Men do.Life is survival of the fitest.There’s a sayin in Nigerian that the fact that all Lizards lies with their stomach on the ground,how would you know the one that has stomach ulcer? One can dressed and look good and even gives a cheerful multivational speech,but has terrible challenges to go through. Have you given ur life to Jesus Christ and accept Him as your Lord and savior ? You just have to do so,because He’l give you the Grace to go through your self condemnation and more challenges ahead of you.Let’s phase reality,Problem and challeges is part of our destiny.they make us strong, experience and grow maturely to phase life. Faith and Patience grows in challeges.If you commit suicide, you’ll go to Hell fire and never makes heaven. What I’m going through in Nigeria is worser than yours.Stop that habit of drinking and consider your vital organs in the body from getting damaged.Don’t be iddle,get something doin so you can be very busy and find a Bible beleiving Church to attend so that ur wounded heart can be healed. Quit from alchoholic friends, they’ll ruine you. Ecclessiates in the Bible says,there’s time for every thing. Your time to shine is coming it can be now, tomorrow etc, try to be happy,you are a work in progress, don’t give up,encourage your self when there’s no one to encourage you. God never made a mistake for creating you.You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God,there’s no exact person like you. If you trust God and work hard and pray,you’ll become a role model instead of your sister.She has her own problem and if shares it with you, you’ll wipe off your tears and see an “error” alarm beeping in front of your “stop crying”. Have you ask God what He created you for,because existing without purpose is an error. You are a solution. Your people are waitin to hear from you,and I no one can do it better than you. Have you ever wondered why some students never understands their teacher’s lecture in School? But a fellow class mate,with simplicity gets the work done. That’s a unique Grace. So numerous to mension. Please don’t be a copy cat nor a people pleaser,be a God pleaser. I’m Samuel, from Nigeria. +2348034963557. Incase my email address fails.I’ve been having some challenges in accessing it. God bless you and I pray that the Peace of God that passeth all understanding rest and abide with you.

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