life help: Why is life like that?

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Why is life like that?

Why can’t we have everything? Why?

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Why to have EVERYTHING?

“Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be.”
(Eleanor Roosevelt, 1901 – 1962)

fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

True. But we have choices and sometime we can’t make 2 choices, but one.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

whats so bad where ur needing more?

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I wish my life would be different, altough it’s very good now too.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

You can change it!
First you have to change your attitudes.

NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

well, fact is.. i have everything i need. But yea often i’d like it to be a bit different in a good way as well

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

so ur not the only one

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Sure. I can change it any time. But some choices can’t be changed.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

like what?

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

Supose you get married with someone, you love that person, but you wished your life could be different.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

fsfdfd wrote:
Sure. I can change it any time. But some choices can’t be changed.

Nearly everything in life is reversible …

fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Sure, nearly.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

fsfdfd wrote:
Supose you get married with someone, you love that person, but you wished your life could be different.

Different in what kind? Not to be married with that person?

fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Different in the way you shouldn’t met that person. Let’s say you love that person, but you wish you didn’t met her.. sounds crazy?

I’d wish to have a family with another person, but it can’t be anymore.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

marrage is a big deal, i knew a guy who at one time was so down about how sad he was and he said he wants a family.. 6 years later he got what he wish for… now he’s telling me not to get married. be careful with what you wish for.

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Yes, I know. All I wanted since a child was to have a beautiful girlfriend. I now have one, almost perfect, but not the one I wanted, but the one I love. Crazy, heh?

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

con’t: he’s practically wanting the same thing .. a different tempo in his marriage..only after preaching to him about what he can do to change it . he doesnt get that he’s the one who needs to change.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Sounds quite immature!
You said, that you love this person whom you’re married with?
Nevertheless you would like to be married with an other one?
Maybe you should change to Islam and practice polygamy, no?

fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

I know. But my life seems almost perfect, mostly complicated to change. What if the person I loved is already with someone else? I can’t change that. I can’t change everything, but myself.

Maybe I’ll change myself and destroy everyone near me emotionally. But what for? My choice is already made.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

how about this.. you cant always have what you want.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

hmm that changes the insight I intended to share… so ur lady wants someone else?

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

I think one could love at least 2 persons. Trust me, not everyone is happy with their marriage all their life. Most of us have someone we loved or we played when we were children.

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

No, my lady doesn’t want someone else. I wish I could choose another lady. But that lady already had someone in her life when I met her. Time passed and things settled.

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

yea i see what u mean, i guess thats why polygamy exists.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

You could clean up, break, divorce …
Not an option for you? If not, why not?

NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

dude.. u got guilt or something?

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NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

zirbel has a point

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

Meaningful silence?

NaTcOMan 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

i’ll say the direction of where this is going is bit back to back. .. fsfdf got the vibes with marriage n what he’d like it to be. i’ll say .. its not natural these days to pluralize marriage, no wonder people cheat when they find it a bit boring. i believe it can turn out to be that way, tho.. i also believe people can change their direction as well. your wife is bound to you, take advantage of that. search for some fun in your relationship.

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fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

I don’t want to divorce because that will ruin my wife’s life. She said to me once “don’t be with someone you can’t make happy forever”.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

fsfdfd wrote:
I don’t want to divorce because that will ruin my wife’s life. She said to me once “don’t be with someone you can’t make happy forever”.

So you prefer to ruin your own life?

fsfdfd #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

It’s not that I don’t love her. Lots of people ruined their lifes for us to have a better future. If we, like a race, are selfish enough to cheat or “play” with people, were we go, like a race? To nowhere.

I made a promise to her, to be with her, always. I can’t just break that promise. It could hurt her.

All I wish it could be different. Maybe in another life I’ll be happier.

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Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

fsfdfd wrote:
Maybe in another life I’ll be happier.

There is none!
This life is your life.

“Perspectives on life!”:
http://www.paulabrandantlcsw.com/?p=185

“4 Effective Practices for Gaining Perspective”:
http://www.thechangeblog.com/4-effect…

“Keeping Perspective When Life Smacks You Up”:
http://www.earthlingcommunication.com…

“Meaning of life”:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meaning_…

zoobaw 13 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (5 hours, 57 minutes after post)

because it would be such a waste maybe… i mean, we don’t need EVERYTHING, do we?

windmills, 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 29 minutes after post)

fsfdfd wrote:
Yes, I know. All I wanted since a child was to have a beautiful girlfriend. I now have one, almost perfect, but not the one I wanted, but the one I love. Crazy, heh?

Nobody gets a perfect girlfriend/boyfriend. Naturally, a person might seem perfect in every respect at first. But after you begin to spend more time with a person and become privy to his/her habits, personality, tendencies, and what have you, their imperfections will soon start to filter through their cloak of perfection. However, if you truly love a person then you will accept their imperfections and hope that they will do the same for you.

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

- Sam Keen

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Anonymous #
10 months, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 53 minutes after post)

nothing wrong with life maybe your ability to make descisions, making descisions is like a muscle the more you do it the stronger it becomes, when you stop’ you make up excuses to tell yourself for why, this causes conflicts between the mind and body, if you are not happy find the root and work on steps to improve it, in another life it will be the same unless you plan on thinking differently.

thenothingguru #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Have you ever seen that episode of Twilight Zone where the guy was in this world where he had everything? Girls, money, he always won at games and everything always went perfect for him. This other dude told him it was heaven. But after a while he began to get really bord, he always had more of everything. but he was miserable. So he asked the man to send him to ‘the other place’, the man laughed and said “this IS the other place!”

Did you also know that suiside rates go up directly in proportion to wealth? The wealthier the country, the more its people want to die.

So think about that and remember, becareful what you wish for and unanswered prayers are blessings.

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BigWilly! 56 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (16 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Anything you want.. $10 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12tce-… Now, that’s one helluva deal.

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