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Just a little rant.
My boyfriend’s ex has been a real pain lately! Around February time I saw a text on my boyfriend’s phone saying something like, “come online, I miss you!” It was off an unknown number and at first I was a little upset and taken aback.. but then I remembered that he had been telling me that his ex was being a bit weird and clingy at the time. Also, his phone displays texts as conversations and he hadn’t initiated the conversation and didn’t reply, so I brushed it under the rug and didn’t think about it for a while. Problem is, when I’m left alone with nothing but my thoughts, my mind tends to wander. I got curious recently and - I know it’s wrong - I looked through my boyfriend’s phone :( I found newer texts from her, basically saying the same “miss you, come online” rubbish, only with a little more passion behind the message. I got so angry at first, but then when I approached him he had a reasonable explanation for the whole thing and I could tell he wasn’t lying.
Turns out, his ex has been texting him non-stop, demanding he talk to her online and stuff like that. He obliged once, only for her to spend about an hour telling him how her life was so much better now etc. Now he ignores her texts and she’s becoming increasingly frustrated with him. I trust my boyfriend to the ends of the Earth and I know nothing is going to come of it. We’ve been living together for a long time now and we have our future planned together. Even so, I couldn’t help but feel really aggravated by his ex’s actions. I’m not going to say anything to her, because I don’t want to stoop to her level, which is why I had to get it out of my system on here! She’s meant to be with someone else now, but I don’t think she’s over my boyfriend! He’s decided that he’s going to sort everything out should his ex text him in future, because it upset me so much. Fair dos to him, he’s been really good through the whole thing and I know he doesn’t want to upset her, but it’s time to put my foot down!!!
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