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Just a little rant.

My boyfriend’s ex has been a real pain lately! Around February time I saw a text on my boyfriend’s phone saying something like, “come online, I miss you!” It was off an unknown number and at first I was a little upset and taken aback.. but then I remembered that he had been telling me that his ex was being a bit weird and clingy at the time. Also, his phone displays texts as conversations and he hadn’t initiated the conversation and didn’t reply, so I brushed it under the rug and didn’t think about it for a while. Problem is, when I’m left alone with nothing but my thoughts, my mind tends to wander. I got curious recently and - I know it’s wrong - I looked through my boyfriend’s phone :( I found newer texts from her, basically saying the same “miss you, come online” rubbish, only with a little more passion behind the message. I got so angry at first, but then when I approached him he had a reasonable explanation for the whole thing and I could tell he wasn’t lying.

Turns out, his ex has been texting him non-stop, demanding he talk to her online and stuff like that. He obliged once, only for her to spend about an hour telling him how her life was so much better now etc. Now he ignores her texts and she’s becoming increasingly frustrated with him. I trust my boyfriend to the ends of the Earth and I know nothing is going to come of it. We’ve been living together for a long time now and we have our future planned together. Even so, I couldn’t help but feel really aggravated by his ex’s actions. I’m not going to say anything to her, because I don’t want to stoop to her level, which is why I had to get it out of my system on here! She’s meant to be with someone else now, but I don’t think she’s over my boyfriend! He’s decided that he’s going to sort everything out should his ex text him in future, because it upset me so much. Fair dos to him, he’s been really good through the whole thing and I know he doesn’t want to upset her, but it’s time to put my foot down!!!

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trentlover20 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

These stalker type exes won’t quit until someone tells them enough is enough or you just cut them out of your life completely, can your bf not block her number on his phone? I know you don’t want to stoop to her level and I understand completely but at the end of the day he is YOUR boyfriend not hers and she’s with someone else so it’s not right.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (56 minutes after post)

Your boyfriend is wrong for letting this continue, he doesn’t want to hurt her? Not replying and ‘obliging’ her by going online is stringing out the inevitable. He should have told her to stop long time ago

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10 months, 3 weeks ago (7 hours, 15 minutes after post)

He is going to sort it, because it’s gone on long enough. Problem is, he’s far too nice! They had a bad break-up and he doesn’t want to upset her, but he said things have gotten out of hand now, so he needs to do something.

I feel like I shouldn’t do anything really. Not only because I’m trying to be the better person, but because I’ve never met her, talked to her, nothing like that and I kinda want to keep it that way :p

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trentlover20 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 43 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
He is going to sort it, because it’s gone on long enough. Problem is, he’s far too nice! They had a bad break-up and he doesn’t want to upset her, but he said things have gotten out of hand now, so he needs to do something.

I feel like I shouldn’t do anything really. Not only because I’m trying to be the better person, but because I’ve never met her, talked to her, nothing like that and I kinda want to keep it that way :p

Well you don’t get anywhere by not trying and brushing this under the carpet is the worst thing to do, you’ve got tot be cruel to be kind just tell her to back off but in a polite way and if that doesn’t work you need to have a word with your bf and just say that enough is enough

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month after post)

I have told many people today not to spam me. Since I make this complaint I get more spam. So I send more spam to them back and then I get more spam. I send emails to 100 people today more than 60 time and they not do anything and no reply. So I send more email to them and still they no reply.

USA and New Zealand and now India Government ignore me. Big conspiracy so I email ripe.net and tell them not to spam me but they do nothing. They keep spam me also. Now I very angry so I send them same request many time.

Do not email i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> anyone. This is injustice to spam me and for every government in the world to ignore me about this actions. This is not correct.

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