Love help: ok sooo, I’m in a relationship that has had its ups & downs for 4 years. - Help.com



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ok sooo, I’m in a relationship that has had its ups & downs for 4 years.

But, I’m so not happy never spend time together…well not as much as it was in the beginning. I really want to believe that things will work out but.. Idk I’m starting to think that maybe its not worth waiting to find out. In love with one foot out the door.

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the tree offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Honestly, it’s worth sticking around to be totally sure of your feelings; you don’t want to regret leaving! But I had something similar in my last relationship and left things for too long, which made the break-up and aftermath extremely sore and bitter for both sides! There’s nothing wrong with calling it a day if you’re not totally happy. It takes real courage!

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10 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Idk…my heart is saying stay but, I definitely don’t want to leave & have the what if, I mean at the end of the day…i will always love this person. That’s what really makes it hard.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours after post)

If what you currently have in your relationship is not what you want in a relationship, the chances of it changing over time are slim. Talk to your partner and tell them how you feel. You may find that they’re not willing to compromise and the relationship is best ended. Alternatively, you may find that your partner is willing to compromise in order to make you happy with the relationship. In my experience, happiness doesn’t just happen over time. It happens because something works. If something isn’t working then try making it work. But know when to cut your losses.

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10 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 21 minutes after post)

I’ve expressed this repeatedly…i want more quality time. I understand that a person must work to pay bills etc..but something has got to give. Even if it’s me leaving. Thanks!

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