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Relationship problems.

My boyfriend and i have an amazing relationship but, it gets terrible when we fight, we’re both stubborn.
I always find myself getting annoyed when my boyfriend gets busy with stupid things for a long period of time. I keep my cool but I’m just a sensitive person. Sometimes i snap, and i lose it.. then next day i apologize.
This time it happened again, and his response was very much…. he was ******* not paying attention to me when i said i was hurt so i said i love you and just left, he tried talking to me the next day but pretending like nothing happened. i talked to him in a very cold way it was a short conversation it ended with nothing… then we haven’t talked in four days then i talked and said we should talk about this i want to fix this and do you want this relationship or not, he was angry and he said he had to leave or he’ll say something i won’t like ( he is very mean when he’s angry, he says stuff he doesn’t mean) I tried fixing the issue and i told him okay then lets just see each other and forget this happened, he said ” that was before, now its a different story” i didn’t understand what he meant, i asked him to explain he said stop! I’m gonna go now i won’t reply, i told him so you’re ending it ? he said STOP!!! .. and he left.. i said fine do what you want. Now its been a day since that conversation went on, i texted him told him i know he needs space now, but i jut wanted to say that I’m sorry, i won’t apologize for me being upset cause i miss you, but i do handle things in a wrong way, and i know i can be difficult and you’re difficult too. I told him that i don’t want our relationship to end based on this fight, we barely have fights, if we do we always handle it this way we’re both stubborn but we apologize at the end and say that we love each other.
This time i really don’t know what to do, after i sent him that text i still got no reply, i don’t think he wants to talk to me anymore.. i don’t know what i should do now!

I really don’t want us to end this way, we’re better than this, we’re both wrong and i handle things wrong i know that about myself, i just snapped cause i miss him and I’m not needy … its been three months since seen him properly, every time he says oh i can’t I’m watching a game or whatever, i say okay and i leave him i don’t get upset over that he should have his space, but at the same time, our relationship is serious (we’ve talked about marriage and kids.. and we’re planning on everything just as soon as we graduate college.. ).. he should make time for me and not just leave it at texting or skyping! it annoyed me and i tried explaining that and when i found him not communicating with me on this thats when i snapped..
i just miss laughing with him now the most and i don’t know what to do.. I really hope you guys help me.

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

I’m sorry to say this, but you have to leave. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it’s the right thing to do; once someone walks over you beyond a certain degree - the relationship has ended. You will just torture yourself if you stay with him, which you are already doing.

It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you do, but nothing easy is worth doing. I get the feeling that anyone with a reasonable age will give you the same advice, as this is what I was told almost unanimously (I am still conflicting as to what actions I plan to actually take)

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