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I say don’t go to the party, not because of the ex, but because going to a party of someone who stabbed someone before, and would stab someone one you care about is foolish.

Also don’t get back with the boyfriend if he is controlling.

Don’t worry about being stuck in the middle of other people’s problems, worry about making better choices in your life!

Is it wise to go to parties around people who stab people? To date a controlling person?

Go to the party, if your ex wants to start trouble because of it, he isn’t worth your time.
If he used to control you, then you don’t go to the party, he’s got control of you again.
If you’re going to get back together, you need to break the control he has over you, one step of doing that is to go to the party, if he gives you grief for it, walk away from him.

as a general rule, i usually avoid people who have a record of stabbing other people.
you have to decide what is more important to you. going to parties with your girl friends is really fun. and it’s something that comes guilt-free if you’re single. you do have a chance to enjoy that.

on the other hand, being in a relationship can be a good time too, but then you’d have to tone down partying with your girl friends out of respect. no boyfriend or girlfriend wants to be left out of their partner’s social life.

you can’t have both just the way you want to. being single is fun and you have less responsibilities for other people and less emotional weight on your decision-making. being in a relationship can be nice, but you’re always going to have to make small sacrifices here and there because relationships run on mutual respect.

you have to decide which means more to you. are you in a stage in life where being in a relationship makes you feel like you’re missing out on all the fun things your friends are doing, and that being “committed” closes off doors to be friends with certain people? or are you in a position in life where going out and partying means less to you than spending time with a boyfriend?

my question, though, is how can you be friends with someone who hates your love interest so much that he wants to inflict physical harm?

From what I gathered before, your ex was/is a real d!ckhead and you’d be a fool to have anything more to do with him. If he gets upset about you going to the party then it’s win/win for you.. maybe he’ll stop speaking to you and go hit on some other sucker. ‘Course, it’s your life and, face it, some people LIKE being used.

Sounds like a nice group of people are going to be at this party…..are they all bringing knifes?

Maybe your x is smart to not like this guy and maybe you should be smart enough to not go if this guy throwing is known for stabbing people.

Stay home and watch a good movie maybe your x will call you when he knows you did not go! Or relize your smarter then he might have thought you were for staying away!