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My mother is so abusive.

I’m in college and I still live at home because my mom is paying for it. I graduate in December. All I want to do is get my degree and get out away from her. She tells me all the time that she hates me, I’m fat, I’m stupid, she wishes she never had me, and wishes I were no longer here on earth. I have been having a lot of bad health issues been getting really sick and my blood pressure has skyrocketed. I am not big and my mom is a lot bigger than me. It’s like she’s a big bully. She tells me all the time it’s my fault that I’m sick…which I don’t see how I can cause myself respiratory problems…I don’t smoke. But yet everything is my fault. When she gets sick with a headache or something she blames me and sometimes I won’t even be around her. She tries to control me. I’ve been trying to save to move out but I really want my degree and if I do move out she won’t help me pay. She’s so controlling and I hate her. I’m so jealous of my friends because their mothers are so supportive and wants them to go out but not my mom. She’s selfish and she don’t want me to have anything because she has panic attacks and can’t do anything on her own. I feel like a prisoner.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

You are a prisoner, but only until December. Just smile at her whenever she complains and think to yourself “I am leaving here in 6 months you fat cow…”

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 16 minutes after post)

is your mom a drinker. Sounds like my dad, when i was in hi school
was always at the bar

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11secondracin offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Your health is probably the way it is because of stress from how she makes you feel and all your dealing with. If you can stick it out a little longer then try too but if you feel like you need to move on then start looking into other ways of paying for school like grants, scholarships, etc… Do you have any other family you could live with? friends? anyone that could help? think about your options

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days after post)

sending you a cyber hug,
and if it’s ok, i’d like to add you to my help.com prayer list

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

Don’t forget to thank her for the degree and all the money she has invested in you on the way out the door.

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11 months, 2 weeks ago (6 days, 18 hours after post)

Thank you :)

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week after post)

Are things going any better ??

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