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is he really working?

or avoiding me? He cancelled our plans for today and he said he might need to work an overnight shift on the weekend. Which we had a whole day planned. Why would he canceled on me? We made plans ahead of time, he should just say no. He did come back from 2 weeks of not working but still one day is not going to kill him. Maybe he found someone else and is lying to me. IDK. He calls me today about cancelling, we are trying to see eachother on wednesday but I doubt that will happen because he’ll just pick up a shift or some lame excuse. He said its not an excuse, but what makes me upset is that he would just say yes, when we had an entire day planned. I’m just so upset. If I needed money after vacation I would work whatever shifts I have and pick up days, that I know I am free, not just canceled on someone. I guess it shows how he really feels about me.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

If he just came back from 2 weeks off maybe he really needs the money. I know I would. Men really do care about their jobs a lot, much more than most women understand. I never got it when my wife would get mad at me for working… I mean how do you think the bills get paid?

I think it shows that he is trying to be successful and maybe you should be more supportive of that. Can’t you call him at work to make sure he is really there? I mean if you don’t trust him there are ways to find out if he is lying. Just drive by where he works and see if his car is there.

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Life’s too short for anything mediocre in your life, including relationships.

If you think your relationship can be easily tweaked to be successful, stay with him an be happy. But if he is pretty set in his ways, why waste your time being unhappy?

I hate these kinds of things. You never want to be the one who is needing the other one more…

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

Have you made the intention of actually sitting down with him or taking the time to talk to him to let him know how you feel when this happens? His reaction will say it all. Sometimes it is hard to say no! I use to work in shifts and I would work the 7a to 3p and sometimes my supervisor would say hey, look can you work an extra 4 hrs or can work til 11p? Sometimes it is hard to say no because they probably see him as the only reliable, hard working person. I mean communication is key. I date a farmer! He has his own hours and I am a nurse I have my own hours too. Sometimes we have plans and those plans change, it sucks sometimes, but at the end of they day its good to have him for a couple of hours. I hated when those plans changed cause I felt that he just didnt want to go out or didnt really care about me, but I had to give up that idea and actually just TALKED! Thoughts got cleared and emotions were all back to their place. COMMUNICATE! You have nothing to lose.

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Jobs are hard as hell to find these days. Real wages haven’t increased since the 1970s. Things are really pretty tough now.

Be glad you have a boyfriend who is willing to work . . . read the other posts about boyfriends who spend all their money on weed and still live in their parents’ basesments!

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