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i came to understand that the feeling of possession was so strong because i lacked self esteem and confidence.

Exactly, I feel that too :(. What did you do to make it better?

i made a few changes in my life.

dropped out of a university program that i wasn’t proud of, got a job to save up for more schooling (had to stop bumming off my parents =P)
invested more time to social life outside of my girlfriend.

but all in all, i focused on improving myself as a person…
to be more interesting, and to rely on her less to retain my sanity.

I think you should pay more attention to yourself…it’s hard to get rid of those feelings that you’re experiencing, but try to understand that you can’t control your friend, accept the fact that he communicates with other people.

I, myself, can understand how you feel very well, because I’m like that too, so just hold on and try to make it matter less to yourself :)

Anon: Thanks man. I hope I can do that too. :) But sometimes it’s so **** hard to think of him dating someone else (although I know the possibility is pretty remote, and we’re not strictly “together” anyway), but I still feel this insane urge to talk to him all the time :(. I suppose it gets better once I teach myself not to mould my life around him.

Alexandra: Thanks a lot! Exactly, I keep telling myself not to worry about things I cannot control, but because he’s so far away and we’re such good friends, the feeling is kind of overwhelming sometimes. I guess I need to give him space, be happy with myself for a while..:)